Building confidence 

It’s hard to know how to raise confident children, when a lot of us, as adults, are still struggling to be confident ourselves. It’s called building confidence because it happens a little at a time as we are exposed to different situations. Every child is different and will have different boundaries and communication styles. Learning those and leaning into them will help us,  as parents, find easy ways to build their confidence daily.  

Being confident in different situations can lead to high self-esteem. Children with high self-esteem, look for opportunities, have a positive outlook on life, make healthy decisions, and tend to feel more fulfilled in life. Isn’t that exactly what we want for our kids? But how do we get there? How do we put it into practice?

That’s what we’re talking about here today. Let’s discover the transformative impact that outdoor adventures can have on your child’s self-esteem and confidence. Let’s create a foundation for their future success by fostering a sense of belief in themselves and their abilities today. Below, you’ll find 10 outdoor activities that are great for increasing kids’ confidence in their physical ability, as well as confidence in their communication and problem-solving skills. 

Mental health in kids 

Recently, you may have heard that children around the world are experiencing a mental health crisis. The number of children experiencing anxiety or depression has been greatly increasing over the last 20 years, with a huge uptick over just the last five years. The decline in children’s mental health can be attributed to a multitude of complex factors. Rapid technological advancements, that, while offering connectivity, have also ushered in unprecedented social pressures and heightened feelings of inadequacy and social comparison. Additionally, the ongoing societal changes, such as the pandemic and its disruptions to routines, social interactions, and learning environments, have significantly impacted children’s emotional well-being. 

Confidence and self-esteem have a direct relationship to anxiety and depression. When a child’s confidence is low, they can have difficulty trusting others, feel self-doubt, and feel unloved or unlovable. These feelings cause children to be less outgoing, take fewer opportunities, and have difficulty setting personal boundaries.

Confidence affects mental health

Building a child’s confidence and self-esteem early has a direct effect on their current and future mental health. A child who has a positive self-image and confidence is better equipped to navigate life’s challenges, build meaningful relationships, and cope with stressors.

Early experiences of success and positive reinforcement contribute to a resilient mindset, fostering the ability to face setbacks with resilience. And there’s no better place to have powerful and meaningful experiences than outside!

Moreover, children with high self-esteem are more likely to engage in healthy social interactions, seek support when needed, and approach new opportunities with a sense of capability. This early investment in their emotional well-being not only sets the stage for a more content and secure childhood, but also serves as a protective factor against mental health challenges that may arise later in life. 

Confidence and self-esteem 

By definition, confidence and self-esteem are two different things, but are very much intertwined with each other. Confidence is a person’s attitude about their own capabilities and skills in different situations. Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves as a whole.

While confidence is situation-specific, self-esteem encompasses a more global sense of self. These two attributes work hand in hand to create a holistically healthy child. A child with high self-esteem is more likely to approach various aspects of life with a positive self-regard, laying the groundwork for confidence in specific endeavors. Having confidence in different situations and multiple areas of our lives, can lead to improved self-esteem.

Together, confidence and self-esteem form a powerful synergy, nurturing a child’s resilience, adaptability, and emotional well-being across diverse facets of their lives.

10 outdoor activities for building confidence 

Getting kids outside gives them a unique and dynamic environment that serves as a natural catalyst for building confidence. Unlike indoor settings, outdoor spaces provide an expansive and unstructured area for exploration, physical challenges, and social interaction.

Outdoor activities often involve a degree of unpredictability, encouraging children to adapt, problem-solve, and take risks in a more natural context. The open-ended nature of outdoor play promotes creativity and decision-making, instilling a belief in one’s capabilities that transcends specific activities and contributes to a more robust and generalized sense of confidence.

Here are ten outdoor activities that will help kids build confidence and self-esteem. 

1. Walk (and talk)

Yep, it can be as simple as taking a walk and talking. Getting outside and away from distractions can make it easier to talk to your kids. I know most of my most meaningful conversations with my kids happen on the hiking trail. Outside, we are not distracted by screens, or chores, or other daily tasks. And walking next to each other and talking is a little less intimidating than face-to-face conversations with full eye contact. Your walks don’t have to be big, long hikes. They can be a walk to the mailbox, a walk around the block, or taking the dog for a walk. 

Talking to kids, asking open-ended questions, and having an open line of communication with them gives them the confidence to speak up. During these “walks and talks,” you and your child can talk through problems, work through feelings, or just talk about the next day’s plans. As your child shares their thoughts and experiences, they not only strengthen their connection with parents but also develop essential communication skills. Knowing that their thoughts, ideas, and opinions are heard and valued (and knowing that they have a supportive space to express themselves) fosters a sense of self-worth and confidence in their own voice. 

No matter what you talk about, just giving them a time and a place to talk openly, will help them build their confidence and communication skills.

2. Climbing (big or small)

Climbing is a great all-around confidence booster for kids. Small rocks and ledges are good enough for smaller kids. Increase size and difficulty as appropriate as children get older.

This activity doesn’t have to be anything big or dangerous. It can be as simple as scrambling over the rocks at your local park, or as big as a rock wall or Alpine Tower. Climbing takes focus and problem-solving, to figure out how to get up these often uneven surfaces.

There is a lot of pride that comes with finishing a mentally and physically difficult task like climbing. This pride is a building block for confidence in their own problem-solving and physical strength abilities.

To learn more about the benefits of climbing, and different ways to start, check out these articles on Benefits of Climbing Structures for Kids and How to Get Started Rock Climbing with Kids

3. Volunteering (yardwork)

Kids always feel better about themselves when they’re able to help. Knowing that you can do something valuable to help others gives you a deep, rooted confidence. Engaging in volunteer activities can provide them with opportunities to contribute to their neighborhoods or communities and make a positive impact. As kids actively participate in helping others, they develop a sense of purpose and accomplishment. The act of giving back reinforces the idea that their efforts matter, instilling a sense of value and importance. 

Volunteering to do yardwork for a neighbor or family friend is an easy way to get started volunteering and get OUTSIDE. This is a great entry-level way for kids to begin to feel comfortable helping others. Children of any age can help by picking up sticks, raking leaves, sweeping sidewalks, or shoveling snow. As kids get older, they can help with more difficult tasks like mowing yards and trimming hedges. Not only will they feel better about themselves for helping others, but they will also be learning how to do valuable skills that they will need to use later on in life.

For more information, check out our full post on how to get started volunteering with kids. 

4. Join or organize an outdoor playgroup

Joining or organizing an outdoor playgroup is a great way to make new friends of different ages and abilities. Having friends to play with outside, can boost confidence by teaching children new and creative ways to play. Group play teaches kids how to communicate and work together with others, which can build confidence in teamwork. Having other kids around to applaud, even the smallest achievements, like going down the slide or running really fast, can really help kids feel special and build their confidence and their physical abilities. 

Don’t know where to find an outdoor playgroup (or interested in creating your own)? Check out our full post on how to organize an outdoor playgroup. 

5. Lawn games

Lawn games can come in many forms, like cornhole (or bags, depending on where you are from), horseshoes, yard darts, or maybe even ladder golf. These games are often done in pairs, but they can also be practiced alone. Lawn games are relatively inexpensive and can be done by many different ages and abilities.

Involving kids in outdoor lawn games alongside adults can give them a sense of belonging and help them learn healthy competition. Winning a game like this when paired with an adult helps children feel bonded with that adult and pride in their skills, which helps to build confidence.

There is also confidence in learning how to lose a game, and not being scared to begin a game just because you might lose. Lawn games also teach children how to work together with another person, which will help build their confidence in their own role as a teammate.

For more ideas, check out our full post on Outdoor Games to Get Kids Off Screens. 

6. Model positive self-talk during a difficult activity 

This may seem like an easy activity (or not even an activity at all), but I have found that practicing positive self-talk when outside on any of your adventures can be one of the more difficult ones. It may not be a specific activity, but it’s something you can do and practice any time you’re outside doing an activity.

As parents, we may give our children a lot of encouragement and praise, but we often forget to talk kindly to ourselves. Our kids see and hear that. Our voices become our children’s inner voices. If we talk kindly and encouragingly to ourselves and about ourselves while we’re out exploring or trying new things, they will do the same. 

Your outer voice becomes their inner voice

Next time you are tasked with a difficult chore or are embarking on a new or difficult task, try to talk yourself through it out loud. Be positive and honest with yourself.   Try to say things like, “this might be really hard, but I think I can do it,” or “I’ve never played this game before, but learning will be fun”.  Yes, it will feel awkward at first, but you should talk to yourself like you want your child’s inner self to talk to themselves. You might be surprised to hear your words echoed back just a few minutes later. 

It’s important to show our children that even grown-ups can get nervous to try new things. Show them that you have self-doubt, but that you also have the tools to hype yourself up. This will give them the confidence to talk themselves into a positive headspace when trying something new or difficult. Children will likely have a voice in their head, as we all do, giving them doubt in new or difficult situations. A parent’s voice of encouragement and positivity will always drown out that doubt as long as you say those things out loud often enough.

7. Practice and praise 

Most kids probably have a sport or recreational activity that they enjoy doing or may want to get into. Showing interest in their chosen activity and encouraging their efforts is a huge confidence booster.

Practice doesn’t always have to be about improving their technical skill each time – it can be just about having fun together. Take your child outside to the backyard, the local basketball court, or the baseball field. Ask them what they like to work on. During these practices, you and your child can become better at giving encouragement and receiving encouragement.

Refrain from giving feedback

Notice how I didn’t say “feedback” or “constructive criticism” there. Sometimes, it’s best to leave the correction of technical things to the coaches or let them figure things out for themselves. As parents, sometimes it can be hard to correct instead of just being their biggest cheerleader. If you’re in the backyard, playing catch, or shooting hoops, try not correcting ANY mistakes and ONLY praising their achievements.

Sports aren’t just a physical game. There’s a big mental component to playing many of these words. Confidence when shooting the ball or up to bat is a huge part of the game. I guarantee the more they practice and the more you praise them, the better they will get (as opposed to practice alone). 

8. Try something new together 

Trying something new is always a little scary. Doing new things together with your child can build a foundation for overcoming fears and enjoying new experiences. This can be as easy as going to a new park and trying a new piece of playground equipment, or starting a new activity like bike riding. Trying something new can also set them apart from their peers and give them confidence in knowing they are different or have a different skill set.  

My son started sailing this summer. No one in our family knows how to sail, and none of his friends do either. He got a big confidence boost, talking about his experience sailing and teaching others what sailing is and how to do it.

Once you try something new and realize, “Oh, this can be kind of cool,” you’re more likely to try new things more often. Taking that first big step with your kid teaches them how to try new things within the comfort zone that you give them. I love this article about having a “try new things” mindset

9. Animal training 

Animal training can be a great way to build confidence in a leadership role for your child. This could be anything from riding a horse, training a dog, or learning to show livestock. All of these activities involve assertiveness, giving direction, and taking responsibility for another being. While being in charge of an animal can give confidence in leadership, it also gives the child a friend and a source of comfort all in one.

A few years ago, my son and I spent a day learning how to train retrieving dogs with some friends of ours. It was amazing to see my shy and quiet son blossom and become loud and commanding as he learned how to take charge of the dogs.  If you decide this approach might be great for you and your child, check out our full post on dog training with kids and this great informational post on the benefits of raising kids around animals.

10. Play on the playground

Kids love to play on the playground. How surprised do you think they would be to see you join in?

Now let them lead. Let them show you around the place and how to use all the equipment. 

At home, parents are in charge, but here on the playground, kids are the kings of the castle. Shifting the power dynamic gives them the confidence to make decisions and have fun doing it. Having you out there with them may also give them the confidence to try new pieces of equipment that they couldn’t quite manage on their own. Have fun and be silly with them, or this gives them the confidence to be themselves, and to be fun and silly too.

Confidence-boosting outdoor activities

These 10 confidence-building outdoor activities are pretty simple, but they’re powerful. You are probably doing a lot of them already. But now that you know just how important they are, try leaning into the part of the activity that increases their confidence.

Because the common threat to all of these activities is that YOU are doing them WTIH your child. Knowing they are wanted, loved, and worthy of the time you spend with them is the biggest foundational block of confidence. It is so important to remember that everything we say TO our children and everything we do WITH them is building those foundational blocks of confidence in their adult selves.

Confidence for all

You might find that playing silly games, trying new things, and practicing your own positive self-talk, might increase your own confidence too! Wouldn’t that be something? We’re learning how to be parents right along with our kids and I don’t know a single mom that wouldn’t benefit from a bit more confidence in her parenting skills.

So, get out there and have some fun WITH your kids.  You can do hard things, even if the hard thing is telling yourself, you can do hard things.

About the author

Meghan is a midwestern mom of 3 kids and one dog. She is a physical therapist assistant and family photographer. At home, Meghan and her family enjoy gardening (both indoors and outside), riding ATVs, and exploring the river behind their house. When not at home, they can usually be found at the lake or exploring Illinois state parks. Meghan’s family has always loved the outdoors, but they really found a passion for being outside and photography when her oldest son had to undergo a bone marrow transplant as a baby. During her son’s recovery, being outside became a safe place for the whole family to learn, grow, and thrive. 

You can find more from Meghan online in the following locations:
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The importance of mother-daughter getaways

The bond between mothers and daughters is a unique and profound connection that shapes a woman’s identity and influences her throughout her life. Spending quality time together with my daughter is necessary for us to have a deep, meaningful relationship. But quality time can be hard to come by at home, when we’re both pulled in a million different directions and dealing with the distractions of daily life. 

However, one of the best things we’ve decided to do for us, is to get away every now and then. Our mother-daughter getaways give us a special opportunity to escape the grind and give us time to focus on each other without distractions. This time helps us foster open communication and understanding. It also gives us shared experiences that contribute to our memory banks.

A getaway provides an environment conducive to heartfelt conversations and storytelling. These trips are also a source of joy, laughter, and relaxation. We get to explore, try new things, eat amazing food, relax, and laugh (a lot). Creating memories together in a new place strengthens the foundation of our relationship.

Make the getaway intentional

Intentional conversation

What I mean when I say to make the getaway intentional is to go into the getaway with some ways you plan to connect with your daughter. Think about the questions you want to ask her and the topics you’d like to discuss. I always like to have several fun questions and several serious questions at the ready so when the opportunity for conversation arises, I am prepared.

I think this is more important as your kids get older and tend to be less of an “open book” than younger kids are. Teens and tweens are dealing with much bigger issues these days and conversation can sometimes be hard to come by. However, you have probably noticed that when you are outside together with your kid(s), that conversation flows more freely. Without the distraction of a screen or household chores keeping you busy, you and your daughter can focus on each other. You will learn about her, and she will learn about you. 

Intentional activities

Also, be intentional about where you go and what you’ll do there. Consider what she will enjoy on the getaway. If ice cream is your daughter’s favorite dessert, find a local spot. Bring along her favorite game for an evening activity. Choose a destination with activities that she likes to do.

My daughter loves to dress fancy, so I always try to plan a dinner at a finer dining restaurant on our getaways so she could fancy up a little bit for one night. There is no need to overindulge, but I think recognizing her personality and indulging in her interests, even if it isn’t your preference, can really go a long way.

Come up with some ideas to make it a special time for the two of you. Create some bonding moments that only you share. Try something new together or get outside of your comfort zone together. Those will become core memories for both of you. 

Expectations for your mother-daughter getaway

Give yourself a pep talk about expectations for your trip before you go. And be realistic. If you are doing this mother-daughter getaway during the pre-teen or teen years, make sure you give your daughter plenty of notice, include her in the planning, and tell her how excited you are to get away together.

Have an open and honest conversation about the getaway with your daughter well before the trip. Discuss the purpose of the trip (whether it’s for relaxation, bonding, adventure, or a combination of these), and encourage your daughter to express her expectations and desires for the getaway as well. Discuss the itinerary, potential excursions, or any specific plans you have in mind. Be flexible and open to incorporating activities that interest both of you. This way, you can ensure that the trip aligns with both your expectations.

And be prepared for hard conversations and possibly hearing things that surprise you. Sometimes, the discussions can get intense. I caution you (from my own experience!) to refrain from lecturing and correcting during this time away. Do your best to let your daughter guide the direction and let it flow organically. 

Why choose an outdoorsy location for your getaway?

I’d love to encourage you, when deciding on a destination for your getaway, to consider choosing an outdoorsy location. Spending time together outside can be such a transformative and enriching experience. Plus, you’ll foster a deeper connection through shared outdoor adventures and the beauty of nature.

Whether it’s a serene beach, a picturesque mountain retreat, or a charming countryside escape, being surrounded by nature creates an ideal setting for bonding and creating lasting memories. And outdoor environments offer a recharging break from the routine of daily life. 

Spending time together outside not only promotes physical and mental well-being but also creates bonding through shared activities and experiences. From hiking and biking to exploring local landmarks or simply enjoying a picnic with a scenic view, outdoor adventures offer a wide range of opportunities for quality time and meaningful conversations. 

I firmly believe that your getaway should be outdoor-focused or nature-based. This does not mean that you need to be camping, hiking, or backpacking. Being in nature doesn’t have to mean “roughing it.” If you and your daughter love that, then do it. But, even if you and your daughter don’t consider yourselves “outdoorsy,” there is still a lot of merit in getting outside. 

I said it earlier, but I will say it again. The outdoors fosters openness and conversation. It literally breathes life into us. When we set aside the technology and the screens, our minds and bodies relax. The environment is set for making connections. The quiet moments in the woods or on the water allow our brains to see things more clearly. The noise and distraction are turned off so that we can be creative and dream and rest. This should be a time of connection and restoration.

Top 5 outdoorsy mother-daughter getaways in the Southeast US

There isn’t one outdoorsy destination that is perfect for your mother-daughter getaway. However, I found four incredible options and would highly recommend all of them. I encourage you to choose a destination that your daughter is interested in, and that works for your budget.

(And because I hope your getaway won’t be a one-time occasion, perhaps you could start a list of options for now and the future. My own daughter loves the idea of making a list of places to experience together.)

1. Sky Ridge Yurts in Bryson City, NC

The Sky Ridge Yurts in Bryson City, North Carolina, are luxury yurts in a perfectly positioned location, for an amazing glamping experience. Located right outside of Bryson City, NC, which is a gateway city to Great Smoky Mountains National Park, you’ll have easy access to the entire area. You will go to sleep and wake up with nature all around you, but you won’t be giving up any of the conveniences or comforts of your own home.

Each yurt is outfitted with an indoor bathroom, stocked kitchen, small living area, and comfy bed. The outdoor porches and Solo Stove give you an extension for outside fun, too. Enjoy your morning coffee while you take in the views, and end your evening with a campfire.

Glamping, adventure, and access to a national park

Sky Ridge is also located within a few minutes of Nantahala Outdoor Center, where you can have a little adventure together. White water rafting on the Nantahala and Chattooga Rivers is a thrilling activity offered from March to October. You can zipline through the forest and have views of the Nantahala Gorge and Great Smoky Mountains National Park as you soar high above the trees. Or, you can rent mountain bikes or sign up for a guided mountain bike tour on Flint Ridge.

You will definitely want to explore Great Smoky Mountains National Park while you are in the area. There are viewpoints, hikes, places to river tube, and more. You can make this a day trip or spend a week here. There is so much to see and do, and you could end up driving quite a bit. The Great Smoky Mountain Railroad, which includes the Polar Express holiday special, is not to be missed if you’re looking for a quintessential experience.

2. The Inn at Serenbe in Chattahoochee Hills, GA

The Inn at Serenbe in Chattahoochee Hills, Georgia, is a historic family farm that has been turned into a luxury retreat. The inn and entire community of rental homes and cottages will accommodate any need. This getaway location  is perfectly situated outside of the major metro area of Atlanta in the rolling hills of the countryside. You will be just 20 minutes from the airport but will feel worlds away during your stay. The 1000-acre grounds offer trails, horseback riding, an outdoor animal village, outdoor games, and open spaces to enjoy nature. 

Horses, food, massages, and bonfires

At the Inn, everything you need is within walking distance or a golf cart ride away. The Inn is relaxed-luxury with lovely rooms. You can also rent a small cottage or home in the Serenbe community area. If your daughter has an interest in horses, this would be an incredible destination, with the opportunity to ride. Hiking trails starting from the inn will lead to a few waterfalls on the property, as well as a labyrinth in the forest. Don’t miss the in-ground trampoline, the bikes, the animal village, or the pool. No matter the age of your daughter, you will not run out of fun things to do outdoors. 

There are also several options for food. The buffet farm breakfast was a winner! It is located in the prettiest windowed room. We also indulged in a delicious dinner at The Hill the previous night. We saw families, groups of girlfriends, couples, and of course, us-the mother-daughter duo. There is no doubt that a long weekend OR a week would be so much fun here, and you never need to leave the property. For a really special treat, visit the spa together and do a mother-daughter massage in their shared massage room. My daughter was so excited to include this in our getaway. Although spa time is not outside, it is a special time together. Do it!

The Inn at Serenbe also hosts events like farm tours, evening bonfires, goat yoga, hayrides, live music on the porch, and community events throughout the year. This is one of those places that has all the amenities of a resort but feels much more like a homestay in the very best way. I can’t emphasize enough the relaxed ambience with all the high-end options. If you want an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway that incorporates nature and relaxation, this is the perfect spot.

3. Treetop Hideaways at Ruby Falls in Chattanooga, TN

Is there any more perfect way to do an outdoor-focused getaway than to sleep up in the trees? I don’t think so!

Treetop Hideaways has done an incredible job of creating a beautiful, functional, fun space to reconnect. This boutique treehouse retreat is so special because it has that notion of being rustic, but lacks nothing in terms of comfort. From the moment you enter your treehouse, you will notice the details of playful design combined with intentional, sustainable systems. They have thought of everything.

Twinkle lights, lookouts, surrounded by nature

If you choose this destination (and it should be on your list), give yourself plenty of time to relax on the porches with a book while you listen to the record player and soak it all in. There is a firepit for each treehouse for evening fun and conversation. Wood, a fire starter, and a wagon to transport it all are provided for you. All of the walkways have twinkle lights, making the whole site feel magical. 

Treetop Hideaways is located just 12-15 minutes from downtown Chattanooga, Tennessee. There are restaurants galore to choose from and many of them have outdoor seating options. If you want to give yourself more time to enjoy the treehouse, simply order takeout. Chattanooga is a city that lives on the river, so it is primed for outdoor fun. You can rent e-bikes and use them on the trails and roadways all around the city. There are places nearby to hike and explore, such as Lookout Mountain. Ruby Falls is a series of underground waterfalls, cavern trails, and caves. This is located just below the treehouses! 

4. The Sanctuary on Kiawah Island, SC

This 5-star luxury property is located on Kiawah Island outside of Charleston, SC. The Sanctuary Resort provides the perfect destination for outdoorsy mother-daughter fun. The Sanctuary at Kiawah Island Golf Resort is a stay that should be on everyone’s wish list. There is no doubt that you will indulge in the delicious food and the super comfy hotel rooms, but there is so much beauty here that most of your time will be spent outside.

Beaches, bikes, and kayaking

The Sanctuary has a beautiful swimming pool and an incredible beach. Honestly, you could spend your entire stay just doing that and get your outside hours. I fully support at least one day of soaking in the sunshine and the salt air, playing in the ocean waves, and otherwise lounging the day away. If you are looking for more activity, though, it won’t be hard to find.

The Sanctuary can help you reserve bicycles to ride the numerous paths all throughout the island. Pro tip: do this early in the morning or after the sun goes down to avoid the heat in spring, summer, and early fall months.

There are world-class golf courses for those of you who have daughters who are interested in golf! If your daughter is more interested in court time, check out the fabulous tennis center to reserve a court or to take a pickleball clinic. 

If you want to go deeper into nature or wildlife, I highly recommend doing a kayak tour on the Kiawah River. We had a glorious guided kayak tour one morning where we learned all about the flora and fauna of the Lowcountry of South Carolina. It was so peaceful paddling and bird watching. Our big surprise was a mama and baby dolphin that swam right past us as we were returning to the launch site. Core memory! 

Why get away outside?

From my own personal experience, I find that time outside together fosters an openness that is difficult to replicate somewhere else. The distractions of shopping, city sites, and shows don’t quite seem to provide the space to really decompress and relate to one another. Statistics show that time in fresh air allows our brains to relax and rest. Because that’s not our natural daily rhythm, when we do allow that, and we do it together, there is deep bonding. 

Gratitude is also a natural outpouring of time outside. In a world that is constantly telling us “more, more, more,” the outdoors helps us to realize that we truly have so much to be grateful for. And when we do this with our daughters, it reminds us that we have so much WITH each other. Simply setting aside those screens for a short time will bring everything back into focus and show us what is important.

The beauty of our natural world is so inspiring. Taking time together outside will also give our daughters an opportunity to think creatively. They will see new things and exposure to new things will aid in their development. 

When should you do an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway?

I believe there is merit to doing a mother daughter getaway at any age. But before you go crazy, make sure you take into consideration the activities offered in the destination you are considering. Some may lend themselves to a more appropriate age. I would also involve your daughter in the planning, especially if she is a teenager. The more influence she has, the more she will buy into the experience. 

As our daughters grow older, the time we get to spend with them starts to shrink. I aim to do a mother-daughter getaway every other year. That gives us something to look forward to and time to plan something special. If that seems like too much, then aim for an age marker that stands out, like a sweet 16 or 12 when girlhood is at a pivotal point. 

When will you plan your next outdoorsy mother-daughter getaway?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes

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Adventure self-portraits

As a mama, I have thousands (okay, okay, more like tens of thousands) of photographs of my kids out on adventures. As a parent, you probably do too!  It is also likely that you are the one usually behind the lens, capturing all the milestones, moments, and fun you guys are having while you are out and about.

But, how many of these precious memories include you in the frame? You were there, too! 

If you aren’t in the frame, you are missing an important opportunity to create lasting memories with your children and show them how many adventures you were on together! But, how do you get yourself in the frame when you’re the one taking the photos? Well, you create what I call “adventure self-portraits.” In this post, I will explain my process for taking adventure self-portraits and share how I ensure I show up in our photos. With the right equipment, approach, and mindset, it can be so easy!

Why is it important to be in the photo with your kids?

Being in the picture with your kids is not only fun but also beneficial for their emotional development and self-esteem. It shows them that you’re proud of them and that you enjoy spending time with them. When you pose for a photo with your kids, you’re sending them a message that they’re important to you and that you value their presence. You’re also showing them that you’re happy and confident in yourself and in your role as a parent.

Getting mama in the frame also helps your kids feel connected to you and to their family history. Photos are a great way to preserve your family’s stories and traditions. When you’re in the frame with your kids, you’re creating a visual record of your family’s life and culture. You’re also giving your kids a sense of belonging and identity, as they can see themselves as part of a larger family unit.

Kids learn a lot from their parents, including how to view themselves and their bodies. When you’re in the picture with your kids, you’re modeling a positive attitude towards yourself and your appearance. You’re also showing them they’re beautiful and worthy of being seen and celebrated.

Creating childhood memories through photos

Photos are more than just images; they’re also emotions, experiences, and relationships. When you’re in the picture with your kids, you’re capturing moments that will become part of their childhood memories and that they can look back on when they grow up. You’re also giving yourself a chance to relive those moments and to appreciate the joys of parenthood.

Photos give kids a healthy booster of memories, emotions, and lessons that were created in the original experience. It makes their memories of the experience, trip or adventure come back to life. It sparks curiosity and triggers emotions. Imagine retelling a story through your images – it’s like they’re reliving that experience. Children can process it over and over again. Photos are magical in that way!

What equipment do you get yourself in the frame?

To start, let’s chat about the equipment needed in order to take a great adventure self-portrait.

Remote/timer

You can get yourself in the frame using either a camera with a remote trigger, an interval timer, or even the timer on your phone. Any of these will work. They say, “The best camera is the one you have on you!” and I agree. Start with what you have before moving on to something fancier or more expensive. Learn how it works, start using it. Pure practice is the best way to figure it out! 

Tripod

To have the most success, I have found that investing in a tripod is worth its weight in gold. Although, you can use rocks or logs to prop up your phone or camera, it doesn’t really compare to a tripod. Plus, the easier things are, the more likely you are to try and continue taking self-portraits. 

If you are a hiker or backpacker like me, I recommend a lightweight carbon fiber tripod.  Here is the one I personally use and love: Sirui A1205 Carbon Fiber Tripod.

If you want to use your phone, I also recommend getting a phone mount to attach it to your tripod. They come at several different price points. You can also set up the frame and create videos with you and your kids this way. Capture the action live!

Self-timer function for taking self-portraits

The simplest way to get mama in the frame is to take your adventure self-portraits with a timer. You can use your phone or camera’s self-timer function. Here are some steps to follow:

1. Place your camera or phone on a stable surface or tripod.
2. Set the self-timer/ interval timer function to the desired time (usually 10 seconds).
3. Press the shutter button and move into position.
4. Wait for the timer to count down and take the photo.

You can run in and out of the frame, creating fun moments with your kids. It really is that easy to jump right into the frame! 

Using an interval timer 

If you are like me and want to take more candid moments that unfold over time, I suggest using your camera’s interval timer. This means that your camera will take a number of photos over a specified interval of time. You can set the time between shots and the number of shots the camera will take.

For example, when capturing snuggle time with my kids in a tent, I set up my tripod and camera and set the interval timer to be 10 seconds between clicks and to take around 50 images. This allows me to crawl into the tent with my kiddos, focus on snuggling and cuddling them, and let the camera do the rest!

I find using the interval timer to be the most authentic way to get myself in the frame because it’s less rushed, and I can take my time. The camera will capture any number of shots, so I can choose my favorites from the set. You can use an interval timer in almost any scenario. It offers the time you need to let those intimate moments happen. 

How to use a remote trigger for self-portraits

A remote trigger is a device that allows you to take photos without physically touching your camera or phone. 

If you’re using a camera to take the photo, you can choose to use a remote (or intervalometer) to trigger the shutter. 

There are two types of remote triggers: wired and wireless. For self-portraits, you would want to use a wireless trigger. To use a wireless remote trigger, first ensure that your camera or phone is compatible with the type of wireless remote trigger you have. Then, connect the receiver unit to your camera or phone via a cable, and hold the transmitter unit in your hand. Then when you are ready to take the photo, press the button on the transmitter unit. 

This allows a similar experience to the interval timer but allows for a little bit more control because you choose when to snap the photo using the remote. If you like a moment that is happening, you can remotely trigger the camera to capture it with the push of a button! 

Some cameras have a built-in Wi-Fi feature that allows you to control the camera remotely using your phone. In addition, if you’re using an iPhone, you can also use your Apple Watch as a remote to trigger your phone to take the photo! 

Get creative with your adventure self-portraits

When you’re out adventuring with the kids and want to take a self-portrait, start looking for scenic backgrounds that complement your outdoor adventure or tell the story about where you are. Give yourself enough space and set the camera back far enough to capture the whole scene. Try to incorporate the natural surroundings, like leading lines, framing elements, or interesting textures, into your photos.

The rule of thirds can also help create more dynamic compositions if you’re looking to really up your game. By that, I mean to place your subject (you and the kids) in the left or right third of an image. leaving the other two-thirds more open for scenery.  Also, try shooting from different angles, including eye-level shots and shots from above or below. Experimenting with angles can add variety to your adventure photos.

How to nail the focus in your self-portraits

Nailing the focus can be one of the hardest parts of taking self-portraits. When setting your camera up, set your camera’s focus point to where you will be in the frame. Put the kids there and focus on them before you jump in (and then try not to move too far from that spot).

Many modern cameras and smartphones have advanced autofocus systems that include face detection. This feature can help ensure that your face (and your child’s face if they’re in the photo) is in sharp focus. You can enable the face detection mode in your camera settings, and the camera will prioritize focusing on the faces in the frame, so that they’re in focus. 

If you have trouble with focus, consider using manual focus or a focus lock feature. Use a single autofocus point or a small focus area to pinpoint where you want the camera to focus. In self-portraits, it’s usually best to place the focus point on your eyes, as they are the most critical part of the image for sharpness. Half-press the shutter button to lock focus on eyes before taking the shot.

A few words of advice to get yourself in the frame

The best piece of advice I can give you is for taking your adventure self-portraits is to KEEP AT IT. Keep getting in the frame. Keep taking the photos. Progress over perfection, always. 

It isn’t easy to capture a great shot when you’re in front of the camera, instead of behind it. And at the beginning, it will feel awkward. However, over time with lots of practice, you will learn poses and certain movements that work for you. Don’t be discouraged if your first attempts don’t turn out as expected. Photography, like any skill, takes practice. The more you practice, the better your self-portraits will become.

I find the more distracted I am, and the more I move around, the better the picture. The photos feel more authentic and less posed. So, maybe don’t try as hard to get it perfect, and you could be pleasantly surprised with how well the images turn out!

Also, let go of the worry of what anyone else thinks. These photos are for me and my family, nobody else. It does get easier each time you try it, I promise. And it is so rewarding! For both you and your kids! 

Additional photography resources

If you’re interested in photography, check out some of our other photography-related posts for outdoor adventurers:

• Tips for photographing family hikes
• The importance of storytelling through photos
• Seasonal spot photography project
• Sunflower field photos
• Puddle jumping photos

About the author

Teri is the mama of 2 adventurous kiddos (ages 7 and 9), living in Washington State. She loves to explore the outdoors, and her kids often tell her she has a “crush” on the mountains (she agrees). Teri is an avid hiker and backpacker, who enjoys getting out on solo trips as well as trips with her kids. She has been taking her kids camping, hiking, and backpacking since before they could walk. Teri loves to unplug with them, be fully present, and immerse themselves in the outdoors. She has traveled a lot of the world with her kids, they lived in China for a while, but she keeps finding herself most excited about her own backyard. Teri is passionate about inspiring other families and moms to get outside and explore the outdoors with and without their kids.

You can find more from Teri online in the following locations:
Instagram: @the.trekking.mama
Website: www.thetrekkingmama.com
RWMC posts: Teri Walzenbach

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The allure of a year-long goal 

Setting a long-term year-long goal can be highly appealing for several reasons, as it offers numerous benefits and advantages. Whether you set a goal or not, time passes either way. Wouldn’t it be great, at the end of 12 months (or earlier), to be able to celebrate reaching a goal? But why a year-long goal? What’s the allure of using such a long time frame?

Well, there are quite a few. A year-long goal provides a clear and tangible target to work toward over an extended period, which is motivating, without short-term intense pressure. Year-long goals encourage gradual, sustainable progress. They often require consistent effort over time, promoting the development of good habits and routines.

Year-long goals are typically well-defined and measurable, making it easier to track progress and evaluate success. This measurement can also provide a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction as milestones are achieved. This gives people a sense of purpose and direction, helping them stay committed to their objectives even when faced with challenges.

As a new mother, the snuggles are great but the identity crisis is real! @tinyadventuresoften

Where it began for me

For me, I began thinking about year-long goals and challenges around the time I got pregnant with my first child in 2016. When she arrived, I finished up work to be a full-time parent. Leaving the workforce to dedicate my life to keeping a tiny human alive left me with a gap when it came to ambition and personal fulfillment, though. I found that setting myself year-long challenges gave me something to work towards and take pride in. 

In the early years, the challenges I set for myself were purely personal. I set a goal to spend 12 months off social media. I did 12 months with no refined sugar. I went 12 months without buying any new clothes. That sort of thing. These challenges were all difficult at various points throughout each year, and I did let myself have a small bit of leeway (like having a piece of wedding cake at a wedding or buying new underwear).

Getting to the end of the year felt fantastically empowering. I did it! I was proud of myself. I felt better. Now, what else can I do?

The goal of getting outside

It wasn’t until 2022 that I stumbled across the 1000 Hours Outside movement, created by Ginny Yurich and vastly popular on social media. The challenge of spending 1000 hours outside with my kids over the space of a year intrigued me straight away. I was already outdoorsy, so I wasn’t sure whether 1000 hours would actually be a challenge or if I would be meeting that goal already without even realising it. 

Prioritising spending time outside with the kids (and often with extras) proved to be a lot of fun. @tinyadventuresoften

Spending 1,000 hours outside in twelve months 

Almost as soon as I found out about the challenge, I started logging the time my kids spent outside. In a move that might be slightly controversial, I didn’t actually tell my kids the goal that I had set for us. I thought that if I told them the goal, then any time I planned activities outside, they might accuse me of only doing it to ‘get our hours up,’ instead of for the joy and benefits of just being outside.

I wanted them to appreciate each moment for what it was, not just for the destination. The goal was to spend more time outside for the sake of spending time outside, not hitting a number. In hindsight, I think I didn’t give them enough credit. Either way, it worked for us. I planned our days around getting the kids outside. 

Doing the challenge made us think differently about getting outside in all kinds of weather! @tinyadventuresoften

Getting creative and gaining confidence

Sometimes we’d go outside exploring and take our time. Sometimes we’d take the more mundane activities, like eating dinner or folding laundry, outside to rack up hours. I quickly realized that if I took the kids camping, we could easily get eleven or twelve-hour days outside! These were all things that we already enjoyed doing, but having the goal of 1000 hours at the end of the year inspired me, pushed me, to be more creative, and to really prioritise getting outside.

And then I began noticing some changes. I noticed my kids becoming more physically confident. I also noticed our moods benefiting from being outside; the kids bickered among themselves a lot less when they weren’t confined to four walls. They showed much more initiative with their imaginative play, building cities out of rocks on riverbeds and money machines with dried leaves. Their creativity blossomed outside; they got better at unstructured free play, and they saw possibilities of play everywhere.  

I also noticed my own confidence growing in my parenting and outdoor experiences. Where I may have been reluctant sometimes to try new things before, the challenge inspired me to take action and get outside. The more time I spent outside with the kids, the more confident I became. Time outside led to curiosity about our surroundings, which in turn led me to becoming more knowledgeable about the nature around us. We were all changing for the better. 

One of my tricks to get them outside: always carry the hiking stove for hot chocolate anytime! @tinyadventuresoften

Reaching our year-long goal 

It turned out that even though I considered us a very outdoorsy family, hitting that 1,000-hour goal for the year was more of a challenge than I expected. It didn’t help that we spent nearly a whole month with one or more of us down with RSV during that August. That month we only scraped thirty hours outdoors.

February 18th was our start (and end) date though, which meant that we had nearly the whole of an Australian summer to get over the finish line. A week-long camping trip over New Year’s bumped us up considerably, and by the end of January (spent mostly at the beach), we’d reached the goal.

Hooray! 

Spending most of summer at the beach was beautiful! @tinyadventuresoften

Working towards a goal as a family 

Setting a long-term shared goal as a family can offer a wide range of benefits and can strengthen the emotional bond among family members. Working towards goals together creates a sense of unity and shared purpose. It also encourages open and effective communication, as family members need to discuss their aspirations, priorities, and expectations, leading to better understanding, teamwork, and empathy. Setting and pursuing goals can teach kids important life skills such as planning, time management, problem-solving, and resilience.

Benefits of family goals

Even though I chose to work towards that goal, there are benefits to setting a shared goal together as a family, such as:

• An increase in communication and teamwork, as you work together to achieve a common goal. 
• Team building and bonding experience.
• The process of choosing and setting goals often involves discussing values and principles that are important to the family. This can help reinforce shared values and ethical standards.
• Inspiration and motivation. When everyone is working towards the same goal and aligned in their thinking, it is easier to stay on track and inspire each other. 
• Creating memories by trying new things together. 
• Family goals related to health and wellness, such as exercising together or eating healthier meals, can encourage the development of healthy habits that benefit everyone.
• Pursuing family goals often requires spending quality time together. This can strengthen relationships and create lasting memories.
• There’s often increased awareness of each other’s needs and interests. When families brainstorm together different challenges and ways to meet their challenges, each family member will bring to the table things that are important to them. This can lead to everyone being aware (and having to take into account) others’ needs. 
• Flexibility and adaptability. Family goals can be adjusted and adapted over time to accommodate changing circumstances, schedules, and evolving family dynamics.
• There is a joint sense of accomplishment and joy when the goal is reached (and a lot of fun celebrating)! Achieving shared family goals creates a sense of achievement, pride, and a boost of self-esteem among family members. 

Creative Team member Anna from @celebrating_my_boys_journey enjoying a family camping picnic.

Making the decision to do a family challenge

Embarking on a year-long family challenge can be an exciting and rewarding experience. If this is something that you want to try, you’ll want to begin by initiating a family discussion. Gather all family members together to talk about the idea of a year-long challenge. Make sure everyone has a chance to express their thoughts, concerns, and ideas.

Next, you’ll want to clearly define the purpose or objective of the challenge. What do you hope to achieve as a family? This could be related to health, fitness, learning, hobbies, or personal development. Based on the purpose, you can set clear and specific goals for the challenge. These goals should be achievable within a year and measurable so that progress can be tracked. 

Finally, you’ll want to create a plan for tackling the challenge and establish any rules or guidelines that you want to include. This may mean you’ll need to consider the daily, weekly, or monthly activities or tasks required, put together a timeline specifying when you will start and finish the challenge, procure any necessary resources or equipment, and have a contingency plan for obstacles or setbacks. If the challenge involves rules or guidelines, make sure you define them and communicate them to all family members. This could include how progress will be measured/tracked, what constitutes success, and any consequences for not meeting goals.

Encourage kids to help choose a family challenge 

Kids love to feel valued for their opinions and for the role they play in the family model. Encouraging them to come up with their own ideas around setting a family challenge, and choosing one together, will give them even more motivation to achieve the goal.

At the dinner table recently, I talked to my kids about our next family challenge. I gave them a few ideas, and we talked about our interests, what was important to our family, and what was coming up for us in the year.

Together, we decided to work towards a goal of spending 20 nights camping together over the next year. I love this choice! Both kids were excited about all the options and places we could camp. My daughter has asked for more time spent in a standard tent rather than our usual rooftop tent, which I think will be a nice way to mix up our routine. I’m already looking forward to all the lifelong memories that this challenge will create for us and the stories that will come out of these 20 nights! 

A scenic family picnic outdoors, from @celebrating_my_boys_journey

Ideas for year-long family challenges 

When it comes to setting a family challenge, the options and possibilities are endless. You could design a family challenge around whatever hobby, activity, or interest you have. You could choose to focus on perfecting one thing, or an open-ended challenge that gives you flexibility to do all kinds of things! There’s no right or wrong answer; no one size fits all challenge. 

If you’re having trouble thinking of a challenge that resonates with you, consider the following ideas as a sounding board to get you brainstorming. Just add the number/goal that you think would be a good challenge for your family.

• The Humans Outside 365 Challenge –  spend 20 minutes outside every single day for a year
• Books read per month or year – choose a number of books to read each month or a total number to read over the course of the year
• 52 Hike Challenge – one hike per week, for an entire year
• 100 Blue Hours Challenge – spend 100 hours in blue spaces over the course of a year (created by Run Wild My Child Team Member Bethany)
• State parks challenge – visit all the state parks in your state in a year 
• Pounds of rubbish picked up from public parks and beaches – set a goal to pick up a specific amount of trash from public spaces over the year
• Meals eaten outside – set a goal to eat a set number of meals together outside (picnic style, over the campfire, on a patio, on the trail, etc.)
• Miles walked, hiked, cycled, or paddled – choose a number to hit over the year
• Alphabet adventures challenge – go through the alphabet and choose adventures and activities that correspond with each day’s letter (A = aquarium, B = bike ride, C = camping)
• Times you visit a new place – set a goal to get out of your comfort zone and visit some new places this year
• Hours spent volunteering in the community – set a goal to spend time doing service projects, acts of kindness, volunteering, etc. as a family
• New skills learnt/attempted – set a goal to see how many new outdoor skills you can learn over the course of a year
• Geocaching quest – challenge your family to find a certain number of caches over the year
• Birdwatching expedition – develop an interest in birdwatching and aim to spot a certain number of bird species throughout the year (keep a family birdwatching journal to record your findings)
• Nature photography challenge – take up nature photography as a family hobby and aim to capture the beauty of your outdoor experiences and create a family album or calendar
• Project 365 – take one photo a day of your kids (and/or your outdoor adventures) every day for a year (you’ll be amazed how much your photography improves)
• Year of the moon challenge – observe and connect with the moon during its full and new phases over the course of a year through stargazing, learning about lunar phases, and each month’s name (e.g. Wolf Moon, Strawberry Moon) and meaning

The possibilities are endless!

Creative Team member Anna celebrating with her sons after finishing a marathon. @celebrating_my_boys_journey

Celebration ideas for when you reach your goal

With family challenges, the most fun part is the journey and working towards the goal together. However, the celebration at the end makes it all the more worthwhile. This is a great opportunity to have a lot of fun and an excuse for a family party.

It’s also a great idea to start planning the celebration at the start of your goal planning, so everyone has it in the back of their minds as they work towards achieving their goal. Here are a few ideas to celebrate the end of a family challenge: 

• Make a cake in the theme of your challenge (for example, a bicycle cake for a cycling challenge)
• Each family member dresses up as their favourite book character and makes a meal from their favourite book (for a book-themed challenge)
• A “glamping” experience as a treat for a camping-themed challenge
• A trip to somewhere the kids have wanted to go for a long time but haven’t had the opportunity
• Have a movie night, with the movie related to the theme of your challenge
• Have a family award ceremony and hand out awards for each member’s accomplishments
• Make a family donation to a charity related to the theme of your challenge
• Have your kids invite their friends over for a celebratory party
• Let your kids pick out new books at the book store, or new camping equipment at the outdoors centre

Extra tips for more learning through challenges

For parents who are homeschooling or anyone just wanting to add another layer to the family challenge, consider these ideas to incorporate more areas for learning opportunities. 

• Have your kids journal their experiences with each step they take towards achieving their goal.
• Ask local businesses or members of the community to sponsor your challenge. Once you’ve reached the end of the challenge, they might be willing to donate to a local charity on your behalf.
  • Alternatively, the kids could raise money for a charity along the way. 
• At the very start of the challenge, have your kids write down what they think might be the hardest part, and the easiest part, of the challenge. At the end, have the kids read out their predictions and see how close they were to reality. 
• Loan books from your local library on the theme of your challenge, or invite guest experts to share their knowledge with your family. This could be a friend, neighbor, or professional in a field related to your challenge.
• Set aside a designated time each week for family meetings. Discuss what you’ve learned, share interesting facts, and plan future learning activities.
• Assign family members topics to research and present to the rest of the family (or places to explore, or where you should camp, etc.). This encourages public speaking, research skills, and persuasion. 

By infusing your family challenges with learning opportunities, you not only achieve your challenge goals but also foster a culture of continuous learning, curiosity, and personal development within your family. These experiences can create lasting memories and a strong foundation for lifelong learning.

Blue skies, pets, and bikes. Perfect! @tiny.adventures.often

Including friends and your wider community 

Challenges don’t have to be confined to your immediate family. Once you’ve landed on an idea, why not put it out there for friends and family to join in if they want to? Including friends and extended family members in your year-long outdoor family challenges can enhance the experience, promote social bonding, and create lasting memories.

The team bonding could extend to cousins, school buddies, and even grandparents. You could put a notice on your local online community noticeboard, and if enough people want to join in, you could even create a new group where you can inspire each other and share your achievements. The more people on board with the challenge, the bigger the celebration can be at the end!

Feel free to collaborate on specific challenges or activities with friends and family. For example, you could plan joint camping trips, hiking expeditions, or outdoor fitness sessions. These could be monthly or quarterly gatherings dedicated to challenge-related activities. You could also organize friendly competitions or challenges between your family and another family or group of friends. This could include sports, games, or outdoor races. Or, dedicate specific days or weekends throughout the year as “Family Challenge Days” where friends and extended family are encouraged to participate. Plan a range of outdoor activities and games related to helping your family meet your goal.

We’re excited for more nights spent camping, even with basic set ups in the back paddock like this one! @tiny.adventures.often

How to turn a failed challenge into a win

While it’d be great to always be able to complete your family challenges, that may not be the case. Unexpected circumstances may come up causing you to fall short of your goal, or something may happen during the year to derail you or shift your goals. That certainly doesn’t mean the experiment was a failure. Even when a year-long family challenge falls short of completion, you should recognize that the journey itself is a resounding win. The memories created throughout the challenge, whether they involve laughter during outdoor adventures, heartwarming moments shared around a campfire, or the resilience displayed in the face of setbacks, are invaluable treasures that will be cherished for years to come. These shared experiences strengthen family bonds, forge deep connections, and build a reservoir of shared stories that become part of your family’s unique history.

Moreover, a failed challenge can often lead to the establishment of enduring traditions and habits. It’s an opportunity to reflect on what went right and what could be improved, allowing you to adapt and continue refining your family’s approach to future challenges. The persistence and determination demonstrated in the face of adversity are powerful life lessons for every family member, fostering personal growth, resilience, and a spirit of perseverance. In the end, while the ultimate goal may not have been achieved, the immeasurable value of the journey, the traditions formed, and the growth experienced make every family challenge, whether successful or not, an undeniable triumph.

Sara McCarty’s family did an Alphabet Adventure Challenge this year and correlated their activities to a letter of the alphabet – via @sara_mccarty

Making a family challenge a tradition 

If you loved your year-long family challenge and want to try another one the next year, you may be onto something! Your year-long family challenge could easily turn into a cherished tradition that evolves with your family’s interests and needs. Setting personal challenges has been my tradition every time New Year’s Eve comes around (not that I think any challenge has to be tied to a calendar year), but now I love the idea of bringing this to our family and getting the kids involved. 

To begin, take a good look at how last year’s challenge went – what went right, what was hard, what would you like to do differently. Use this feedback as the foundation for selecting the next year’s challenge. By involving every family member in the decision-making process, you ensure that the challenge aligns with everyone’s interests and aspirations.

As you embark on each new challenge, infuse it with elements that promote togetherness and create lasting memories. Incorporate traditions and rituals unique to your family, such as a special kickoff event or a symbolic gesture at the challenge’s conclusion. These rituals will help solidify the challenge as an annual tradition that carries emotional significance.

Having successfully completed the 1000 Hours Outside challenge as a family, I got excited to bring my kids into the tradition as well. Although we aim to keep up the tradition and mentality of spending as much time as we can outside, I thought it was time for a new challenge for us. That’s why we discussed it as a family and decided on our new camping challenge. I’m SO excited to start working towards our goal! 

Have you ever tried a year-long family challenge?
What challenge would you like to try next?

About the author

Jacqui and her two intrepid kids call that little island on the bottom of Australia home. Most people know it as Tasmania, but in the indigenous language of palawa kani, it is known as lutriwita, and it is a stunning place to live and explore. In a way, Jacqui lets the local landscapes be her co-parent, having realized early on in her parenting journey that the kids are happiest when they’re outside. Jacqui has a background in natural health, but these days she’s hung up that hat to parent full-time while the kids are still young. You can usually find them at a beach, rock-hopping, hiking, camping, jumping into rivers, or sipping chai teas while the sun rises. Among friends, Jacqui is known for never going anywhere without a Jetboil, telling long stories, having her head in a book, and whisking the kids away on ambitious adventures.

You can find more from Jacqui online in the following locations:
Instagram: @tiny.adventures.often
RWMC posts: Jacqui Hazell

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“If there is magic on this planet, it is contained in water.” ~ Loren Eiseley 

Our attraction to water

Humans have an innate and profound attraction to water, and this connection is deeply rooted in our evolutionary history and our basic biological needs. Water comprises about 70% of the human body. Water covers more than 70% of Earth. Humans spend the first 9 months of our existence in a watery womb. We require water for various physiological functions, including digestion, circulation, temperature regulation, and waste elimination.

Our attraction to water may be instinctual, as our ancestors needed to locate and consume freshwater sources to survive. But water also provides a natural playground for humans. From swimming in oceans and lakes to kayaking down rivers or simply relaxing on a beach, water offers a wide range of recreational activities, as well as natural therapy for stress relief. 

Many of us have heard that green space, or time in nature, benefits the body and mind, especially to combat all our time behind screens and inside under fluorescent lights. Less attention has, though, been paid to blue spaces —  areas around rivers, lakes, oceans, and ponds. Recognizing the importance of water and “blue spaces” in our lives can lead to a deeper appreciation of its value and the need to protect and preserve this precious resource for future generations.

Photograph of Bethany Augliere by Nicodemo Ientile

Ocean memories

Childhood is a time of wonder and exploration, a period when the world’s mysteries are unveiled through the lens of innocence and curiosity. For many of us, some of the most cherished and enduring memories of our early years are those spent in those blue spaces near water. These experiences aren’t just fleeting moments in our past; they lay the foundation for a lifelong connection with nature. The time we spend as children near water not only forms indelible memories but also fosters a profound bond with these environments that can shape our relationship with the natural world throughout our lives. 

Some of my best memories involve water, from my childhood to just this past summer. When I was growing up, the water was like a second home. My dad’s parents lived on a lake in northern Virginia, and my mom’s parents lived five minutes from the beach in Long Island, New York. I spent my childhood learning how to bodysurf and boogie board with my grandma, cousins, and friends. We often got tossed in waves, emerging from the water with sand burns on our legs. In the winter, we took family trips down to the Florida Keys. I loved snorkeling in the tranquil waters, scuba diving on coral reefs, and kayaking in mangroves. I have fond memories of searching for hermit crabs with my little brother at the shore’s edge.

Blue space and mental health 

Today, Western countries are experiencing a rise in mental health issues, including social anxiety, especially among young people, which is linked to increasing social media use and academic and social pressures. Among all disease groups worldwide, mental disorders are the leading cause of years lived with a disability. We all have stress, but how can we better cope with that stress?

Get outside and see some blue!

Blue Mind Theory

The Blue Mind theory, popularized by marine biologist and neuroscientist Wallace J. Nichols, Ph.D., is the mildly meditative state people fall into when they are near, in, under, or on water. This theory posits that spending time near or around water (be it oceans, lakes, or rivers), triggers a neurological and psychological response that promotes relaxation, reduces stress, and enhances overall well-being. By immersing ourselves in the sights and sounds of blue spaces, we tap into a deep-seated connection with water that calms our mental state, encourages creativity, inspires reflection, and fosters a sense of interconnectedness with the natural world. 

Blue spaces vs. green spaces

Spending time in both green spaces (parks, forests, meadows), and blue spaces (near water) can offer a range of benefits to physical and mental well-being, yet they provide distinct experiences due to their unique characteristics. The key difference between green and blue spaces lies in their sensory experiences. Green spaces provide a predominantly visual and olfactory experience, with lush landscapes and the smell of vegetation. In contrast, blue spaces engage multiple senses, including visual, auditory, and tactile sensations. The sound of water and the feeling of coolness in the air or on the skin contribute to a more holistic sensory experience.

Benefits of blue spaces (and spending time near water)

The presence of water has an inherently calming effect on the human mind. The benefits of spending time in blue spaces come from 4 main ways: physical activity, stress reduction, providing a space for socialization, and the environmental factors that impact health. Experts have found that spending time in blue space lowers the risk of stress, anxiety, obesity, heart disease, and even premature death.

Some scientists claim that bodies of water can unlock problem-solving and creativity and that water’s color, sound, and feel can lower pulse rates. Water’s ever-changing patterns and reflections often inspire creativity and introspection, making it a source of artistic inspiration and personal insight.

The rhythmic sounds of waves, the reflection of the sky on the water’s surface, and the cool breeze all contribute to a sense of serenity. Blue spaces are associated with improved mood and increased feelings of happiness and relaxation. Being near water can reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Like green spaces, blue spaces also offer opportunities for physical activity, such as swimming, kayaking, or boating. These activities promote physical fitness and mental well-being. Swimming, hiking, exploring, enjoying the company of friends, soaking up vitamin D, it all happens when exploring blue spaces. Many people report feeling a profound connection with nature when near water, which can foster a sense of interconnectedness and environmental stewardship.

Benefits of blue spaces for kids

A recent study reveals that recreational exposure to blue space as a child can have a major impact on a person’s adult mental health and can encourage them to maintain a healthy relationship with nature into adulthood. In the study, respondents shared their experiences with blue space during childhood, including how frequently they visited it and how comfortable their parents were allowing them to be in and near water. In a nutshell, more blue space exposure as a child results in better adult mental health and a greater propensity to spend recreational time in nature as an adult.

And not only that, but adults who had familiarity and confidence around coasts, rivers, and lakes, were more likely to spend recreational time in nature during adulthood, leading to continued benefits. 

Spending time recreating in blue spaces can also help with your child’s social skills and behavior. Another study found that higher beach attendance each year during childhood was associated with decreased total difficulties and peer relationship problems and increased pro-social behavior.

Ways to start exploring blue spaces

Blue space, which encompasses the sea and coastline, rivers, lakes, canals, waterfalls, and even fountains, has been used therapeutically for years. Whether you are already an outdoorsy family looking for new adventures or simply want to find yourself in more blue space, here are some ways you can incorporate water into your life.  

Keep it simple

If spending time in lakes or oceans is outside your comfort zone, then start small. Take a walk along a lake or stream, or sit on your patio and watch the rain. Take your little ones to jump in a puddle and watch the water splash or search for salamanders in a small creek. The point is to be intentional with your mind and time. Searching for places to explore water can often lead to finding cool new areas in general that you might not have otherwise found. 

Try something new

If you are feeling adventurous, try a new (to you) activity on the water, like stand-up paddleboarding, kayaking, or tubing down a river. We started bringing a boogie board and skim board to the beach for my 4-year-old just so he could start getting comfortable with them. (We get most of our sports equipment second-hand from thrift shops or friends, especially when we are just starting to try stuff out). 

Snorkeling

Most people think you can only snorkel on tropical vacations to Hawaii or the Caribbean, but I often bring my mask and snorkel to lakes and rivers to see what I can find. This summer, I found a newt while snorkeling in a lake in Oregon. In prior years I’ve found giant snapping turtles, American eels, and landlocked salmon in the lakes of Maine or river otters and snakes in the freshwater springs of Florida, in addition to manatees. So, put on a mask and dip your head beneath the surface; you’ll never know what you are going to find. 

Let them lead

It can be tempting to want to push your kid into trying something new or something that you love. But pushing them is rarely an effective method and can often backfire. Let them lead and take it slow. When I was teaching my then three-year-old to snorkel, I’d take him to a calm lagoon area, let him stay where he could stand, and just dip his head under with goggles to look for critters. Finding calm, clear water is one of the best ways to start building confidence when swimming in lakes or the ocean.

In Florida, if it’s windy and choppy at the beach, we often take the kids to little spots on the Intracoastal, an inland waterway system made up of natural inlets, saltwater rivers, bays, sounds, and man-made canals. It’s more protected than the beach, which means the water is much calmer and without waves. 

Bring friends

Nature is a great place to reconnect with friends and socialize. Adventure friends, shared joy, and positive peer influence can help us and our kids expand our horizons and potentially try new things we might not otherwise try. And parents might also feel more comfortable trying new things with more experienced parents nearby. I love being that positive influence, helping other families feel a bit more comfortable in the ocean if they are with us.

100 Blue Hours movement

My passion is to help others enjoy the water for their own mental and physical well-being. Ultimately, I also hope this inspires people to care about these vital ecosystems and take positive action toward the environment, whether it’s recycling more, shopping second-hand, minimizing single-use plastics, participating in beach cleanups or learning about a local endangered species.

For this reason, I co-founded the 100 Blue Hours movement along with Brittini Arlene, a fellow marine biologist and water-loving mom.

The mission: spend 100 hours in or around the water in one year. This averages to about 2 hours a week.

The movement underscores the importance of reconnecting kids with the natural world. Spending quality time in blue spaces fosters a deep and lasting connection between children and the environment. These experiences instill a sense of wonder, respect, and appreciation for the natural world, encouraging future generations to become stewards of the environment. After all, “in the end, we will conserve only what we love, we will love only what we understand,” said Baba Dioum.

Why 100 blue hours in a year?

The goal of spending 100 hours in blue spaces over the course of a year is significant for several reasons, but it is also achievable, striking a balance between setting a meaningful target and ensuring it’s realistic for most families:

100 hours represent a substantial amount of time spent in nature, which can lead to tangible physical and mental health benefits for children and adults alike. Regular exposure to blue spaces can reduce stress, boost mood, and promote overall well-being.  Setting a specific goal of 100 hours encourages families to consciously prioritize outdoor activities in blue spaces. This intentionality can lead to positive behavioral changes, such as reducing screen time and increasing physical activity.

One hundred hours spread across 365 days provides flexibility for families to plan outings at their own pace. It allows for a variety of short and long visits, accommodating busy schedules and different seasons. 100 hours over a year adds up to meaningful and cumulative experiences. Over time, these experiences can shape a child’s perspective, fostering a deep and lasting connection with the natural world.

We also think the goal of 100 hours over a year is attainable for families of varying backgrounds and access to blue spaces. It doesn’t require expensive vacations or extensive travel. It doesn’t require you to homeschool or forgo other meaningful activities. Many communities have accessible local water bodies, parks, or green spaces where families can spend quality time. While it encourages regular outdoor time, the 100-hour target is not overly demanding. It allows families to enjoy the process without feeling pressured to meet strict quotas, making the experience enjoyable and sustainable.

About the author

Bethany Augliere is a marine biologist, conservationist, and storyteller. She has always been inspired to encourage people to fall in love with nature and explore their own backyard, in hopes of instilling a desire to help protect the Earth and its creatures — especially the ocean. Her work has brought her eye-to-eye with giant tiger sharks, playful dolphins, curious manta rays, and gentle manatees. Now, as a mom, she aspires to share those adventures with her family, whether it’s kayaking in the Everglades or searching for shark teeth on the beach.

You can find more from Bethany online in the following locations:
Instagram: @wilder_seas
Facebook: @bethanyaugliere
Website: www.bethanyaugliere.com
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While not everything runs smoothly, there are some things that are working well for our family this summer. Here are my top 5 summer parenting hacks that are working really well for us right now. I hope some of them will help you figure out ways that your summer might run a little more smoothly too! 

1. Alphabet Days

The kids and I are doing alphabet-themed adventures this summer, which is helping us explore our surroundings and check out places we might not have otherwise tried. About once I week we brainstorm all the things we could do that start with that letter. This includes activities, as well as visiting places that start with that letter, or eating food that starts with that letter.

For example, for “B” day we went bowling (fun!) and tried boba tea (yuck!). We also considered going to the botanical gardens or the butterfly house. Or, we could have chosen to go boating or have ice cream at Baskin Robbins. You get the point. 

What’s great about this is the kids get to help brainstorm and pick the activity, so they’re vested. I’ve heard way less complaining about what we’re doing. Sometimes I make an executive decision about our daily activity and they have been great about going along with it.

It’s also been a great way to compile a huge list of all the fun things to do in our area, which I’ll keep and refer back to when we need ideas. Anytime we’re out and think of something fun or discover a new place, I add it to our list.

Here’s what we’ve done so far (and you can see photos from all our alphabet adventures on my personal Instagram feed – @sara_mccarty): 

• A = Aquarium + Andy’s
• B = Bowling + boba tea
• C = City Museum & Circus Flora
• D = Dinner at the duck club
• E = Echo Bluff in Eminence
• F = Foraging at Forest Gully Farms
• G = Grafton
• H = Horseback riding + Hi Pointe hamburgers
• I = Ice cream farm tour

2. Sunscreen battles

First of all, I’ll start by saying I despise sunscreen. Like, hate hate hate it. The kids and I are fair and freckly, so we need it, but I hate putting it on myself, I hate putting it on the kids, I hate how it feels, I hate that it always breaks me out, I hate reapplying, I hate wrestling and fighting with the kids about it, I hate that it’s so expensive, I hate all the chemicals. HATE. 

It’s no fun to hate something that much that you have to do every day. It was making me cranky and constantly putting me in a bad mood, so something had to change. For the last couple of years, I’ve been slowly collecting tips and tricks to make this whole sunscreen process a little easier. What used to send me into a fit of rage now is only mildly annoying, so I’m going to call that a win.

Here are a few things that have changed my attitude on the sunscreen situation:

Find a sunscreen you don’t hate

After hearing everyone rave about it, I finally made the switch from the crappy sunscreen I bought at Target to the good stuff. I now use BeautyCounter sunscreen on myself and the kids. And I love it. 

Yes, it’s spendy, but it takes away a few of the things I listed above that hate about sunscreen (no nasty chemicals (reef safe), feels light, doesn’t break me out), so that makes it worth it to me. This is slightly embarrassing to admit, but I love it so much that I signed myself up to sell it (mainly so I could get it myself at a discount, if I’m being honest). I love it that much. Get yourself some right now. (Oh, and the BC deodorant is also life-changing. I’ll stop now.)

Use a sponge to apply to faces

This is another game changer. I bought these cheap makeup sponges and use them to apply sunscreen to the kids faces. It SO much easier than using your fingers. It applies evenly and doesn’t leave the kids faces white (which they hate). 

Wear a rashguard

Less skin exposed means less skin to apply sunscreen to. I’m a huge fan of rashguards and try to put my kids (and myself) in them as much as possible. It’s not always their favorite, so if they want to wear something else, I bring them along, and they can put them on later. This a win for them because they’d usually much rather put a rashguard on than get out of the water, dry off, get sunscreen reapplied to them, wait for it to dry, then get back in the water. 

3. Meal planning and snacks

Ugh, does just the thought of making another meal make you want to cry, too? It’s a never-ending battle to keep up with meals and snacks over the summer with the kids home all.the.time. and always hungry. If we’re home, someone is asking me for food. It drives me bananas. Again, I knew this going into summer, so I tried doing things a bit differently. Not everything has worked (I’m still schlepping snacks out left and right), but here are a few things that have helped.

Snack station

I’m not a big fan of giving my kids unmonitored access to snacks because they will go hog wild, but I also don’t want to have to dole out every single snack they have all summer long, so I needed a compromise. I went to Trader Joe’s and stocked up on “healthy-ish” snacks that I didn’t mind them eating on their own (applesauce, dried fruit, fresh fruit, granola bars, pretzels, popcorn, yogurt, cut veggies, trailmix, cheese, crackers, etc.) and then set everything up in a spot in the basement fridge that’s easily accessible to them.

I also added glass flip-top reusable water bottles that I run through the dishwasher and refill a few times a week (like these). I’m always looking for more goodies to add to this list, so if you have any ideas, let me know. 

Hello Fresh meals

I signed up again for Hello Fresh meal kits. Each week, I pick four meals (dinner) and get the ingredients delivered, which has been a huge time saver for me when it comes to meal planning, grocery shopping, and meal prep. I order the meals for 4 people (even though there are 5 of us) and usually add extra meat to the meal (because my husband eats enough for 3), which gives us plenty for dinner and a little leftover for lunches.

I switch up the orders each week (although we do have favorites – lettuce wraps, moo shu pork, street-cart chicken bowls), and it’s seemed to work really well. I wouldn’t say they’re the fastest meals to make each evening (probably around 30-45 minutes from start to finish), but I like the cooking part (just not the planning part), so this saves me from having to figure out what to each multiple nights each week, and thus, saves my sanity.

There are a lot of these types of meal kit services out there (pick your favorite!), but if you want to try Hello Fresh, this link will get you some free meals. 

4. Summer reading

The kids and I are all doing a summer reading challenge through our local public library. I’ve been plowing my way through some great books lately, but I’m trying to be more intentional about sitting down and reading a physical book in front of the kids. I’ve heard over and over that kids will read more if they see parents reading. I read a ton, but I realized I wasn’t really doing it in front of my kids.

I’m always reading multiple books at once. I’ll be listening to an audiobook (although some may not consider this reading) in the car or doing chores around the house, and I also have books downloaded to my phone (which sometimes just looks like me playing on a screen to my kids). My physical books sit on my bedside table and I read every night before bed (which the kids don’t see because they’re asleep). I realized this needed to change, so I’ve been trying to be more intentional about reading during the day in front of them, whether that’s at home, at the pool, at the farm, or creekside. If I have a few minutes, I read. 

I don’t know if it’s making any difference yet, but I’m enjoying it! If you’re interested, you can see what I’m reading here. I’d love to hear what you’re reading! 

5. Sober summer

This one’s probably not going to be for everybody, but in early May, I decided to cut out all alcohol for the rest of the summer. Yes, I know, it sounds awful (and sometimes it is), but for the most part, I’m so glad I did this. I was really tired of feeling SO.TIRED. all the time and wondered if my evening cocktails were making feel worse in the long run, despite feeling better in the moment. What I was thinking was a stress reliever was actually causing me more stress because I was just feeling cruddy all the time. Here’s what I’ve noticed after 2+ months of not drinking:

• I feel better, but I’m still tired. I know I’m sleeping more (going to bed much earlier than I was) and sleeping better (according to my SleepNumber sleep score), but I’m still exhausted all the time. I think this is just normal for being mid-40s and trying to keep up with 3 little kids. I’m old, I’m working through it. Ha!
• My skin looks much better and I (finally) lost a couple pounds. These were unexpected side effects that have been pleasantly surprising. I’ve noticed I haven’t been breaking out as much (even wearing sunscreen every day!) and (after two months) I’m down a few (around 5) pounds. I mean, I’m not anywhere close to pre-baby weight, but at least moving in the right direction again. 
• Social situations are a bit awkward, but not that bad. And it’s totally me being awkward, not others. For the most part, when I tell people I’m not drinking for the summer they’re super supportive. Although, I do get a lot of “good for you, but that’s not for me” responses, which is totally fine! I’m not trying to push this agenda on anyone and I certainly don’t care if people around me drink. I already know I’m socially awkward, so (again), I’m just working through it. 
• I’ve swapped out my evening cocktail for spa water (I use that term very loosely). Whatever fruit I can find in the house or garden I throw in this infuser pitcher with  some water (or sparkling water)  and viola! I’m plowing through my rouge mint patch from the garden and trying to figure out how to grow a lemon tree! Strawberries, watermelon and lemons are great (bananas, grapes and apples…not so much). 

About Sara

Sara McCarty is the Founder of Run Wild My Child (runwildmychild.com), a resource website, online community and podcast all about getting kids off screens and outside, one adventure at a time. She’s a mom of 3, wife, and a corporate securities lawyer. She grew up in the country, but now lives in St. Louis and is determined to raise her city kids to be as wild and feral as possible. You can usually find her family exploring a creek, fly fishing, hiking, duck hunting, camping, canoeing, biking, or geocaching. She’s passionate about reading, photography, plants, coffee, cooking, and key lime pie.

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Research your beach

Before your beach day, start by doing a little detective work to find the perfect spot for your family adventure. Consider beaches that offer a kid-friendly environment with amenities that cater to families.  Check if the beach has lifeguards on duty. Having trained professionals watching over the water can provide peace of mind. Seek out beaches that offer convenient amenities for families with children: restrooms, showers, changing facilities, picnic areas, playgrounds, parks, etc. 

Also, consider the beach’s popularity and its typical crowd size.  Is the beach usually crowded or more secluded? Will there be other kids there for your kids to play with? Or would you rather have more space to spread out? 

Look for amenities that enhance your family’s comfort and convenience, such as rental chairs or beach umbrellas. Is there easy access to parking? How far is the parking lot from the beach? Are there nearby shops or restaurants for grabbing snacks, ice cream, or refreshing drinks?

Don’t forget to check out reviews and recommendations from other families who have visited the beach. Online travel forums, family-oriented websites, or social media groups can provide valuable insights and firsthand experiences. Pay attention to positive feedback about cleanliness, safety, and the overall family-friendliness of the beach.

Arrive at the beach early

I’ve spent 13 summers at the beaches of Southern California, and to say beaches can get crowded is an understatement. It seems like the whole world is at the beach in the summer. Where we go, the parking situation is crazy, so I always attempt to get to the beach by 9 in the morning from June through August. It’s much easier to find a close parking spot during those morning hours. Because my husband is usually at work, I take all four of my kids by myself. That close parking spot makes all the difference when you have an arm (or wagon) full of towels, chairs, snacks, boogie boards, skim boards, sunscreen, umbrellas, sand toys, and the list could go on. 

Another reason I like to get to the beach early is so that you can stake a claim on your space. There are fewer people at the beach in the morning, so you will have enough room to lay out all of your towels and toys and not feel like you’re crowding someone else. I like to be fairly close to the shore so I can still see my kids in the water without leaving my chair. I call that thinking smarter, not harder.

Water, water, water!

Chances are, if you’re spending a day at the beach, it’s a warm, sunny day. And spending all day building sandcastles can be thirsty and hungry work. It might mean a few extra pounds to carry or pull in the wagon, but you’ll want to bring lots of water! Your kids are going to get thirsty, and you’ll get thirsty. Pack a cooler filled with refreshing water and yummy, healthy snacks like juicy fruits (extra hydration) and energy bars. Remind the kiddos to take sips, even if they don’t feel parched.

I also bring extra water in case we need to rinse anything off without it getting salty. I’ve been guilty of not bringing enough water, and we’ve had to cut some beach days short because we ran out of water. The fussiness that ensued was more than I could bear, so we left. Don’t let that happen to you!

Take a photo and make a plan if you get separated

You surely have thousands of pictures of your kids on your phone, but when you get to the beach, snap a quick photo of your kids in their swimsuits so you know what they’re wearing. This is a safety precaution that will be extremely helpful if you have a child that wanders off or gets lost. You will have something to easily refer back to the photo, just in case.

It’s also a good idea to talk to your kids about how they can find you. Maybe you have a rainbow-colored umbrella, or a blue shade tent, or a yellow beach chair. Talk about these items so your kids know what to look for if they go refill a bucket with ocean water and need to make their way back.

And speaking of having a photo on your phone, I also recommend bringing a bag or sleeve to carry your phone in. Even a simple plastic sandwich bag works great to keep the sand out of your phone when it’s in a bag or the cup holder of your beach chair.

Stay near a lifeguard

I recently spoke with two local lifeguards and asked them for their best beach safety tips. Both lifeguards said that parents should stay near a lifeguard tower. This is especially true if you aren’t familiar with the beach or if your kids aren’t used to the ocean. It will be easier to get a spot near the lifeguard tower if you arrive at the beach early.

Lifeguards are highly trained professionals who are experienced in identifying and responding to water-related emergencies. They are equipped with the necessary knowledge and skills to handle various situations swiftly and effectively. By setting up near a lifeguard tower, parents can rest assured that help will be readily available in case of an emergency.

Lifeguards have a panoramic view of the beach and water from their elevated tower positions. They maintain constant surveillance over the area, actively scanning the water for any signs of distress or potential hazards. It’s easy for parents to get caught up in the excitement of beach activities and momentarily lose sight of their children. Lifeguards act as an additional set of vigilant eyes, keeping a watchful eye on all beachgoers, including children. They can help locate lost or wandering children and reunite them with their families quickly.

Lifeguards are not only there for emergencies but also to provide important water safety education. Lifeguards are ready and willing to help you. When you get to the beach, feel free to walk up to a lifeguard and ask a few questions. You might want to ask them their best beach safety tips, or anything that might be helpful for that specific beach on that day. Tides, currents, wave height, and break are all important facts that the lifeguard will know. Sometimes they will also have a whiteboard listing the water temperature, tide times, and the sunrise/sunset. 

Ultimately, setting up near a lifeguard tower provides parents with peace of mind. Knowing that trained professionals are nearby, ready to respond in case of an emergency, alleviates anxiety and allows parents to relax and enjoy their time at the beach with their children. It adds an extra layer of safety and reassurance, making the beach experience more enjoyable for everyone.

Water safety for non-swimmers

If you are at the beach with little kids who can’t yet swim or aren’t strong swimmers, ensuring their safety becomes a top priority. Always keep a close eye on children who can’t swim or are weak swimmers. Stay close to them at all times, especially when they are in or near the water. This way, you can quickly provide assistance if needed. Opt for beaches with shallow water and gentle waves, as these areas are more suitable.

And have your child wear a properly fitted U.S. Coast Guard-approved life jacket or personal flotation device (PFD) when near or in the water. Ensure the device is appropriate for your child’s size and weight. Remember, inflatable toys or water wings are not substitutes for a life jacket and should not be relied upon for safety.

Watch the waves

The entirety of my childhood existed within an hour of the Pacific Ocean. One of the phrases I heard so many times was, “Never turn your back on the ocean.” My mom told me this to emphasize the importance of watching and paying attention to the waves. By encouraging children to watch the waves, parents instill a sense of respect for the ocean’s power and unpredictable nature. Understanding the force of waves fosters a healthy appreciation for the water and reinforces the importance of caution and responsible behavior while enjoying beach activities.

As an adult, the waves might not seem scary. But, to a child who is just a few feet off the ground, the waves can seem dangerous (and very large). Waves are a dynamic force of nature that can be powerful and unpredictable. By reminding children to watch the waves, parents help them develop a sense of wave awareness and understand their behavior. This awareness allows children to anticipate and react to waves appropriately, reducing the risk of being caught off guard or knocked over. By teaching your child to always pay attention to the waves, they will begin to feel more comfortable. 

Waves have a pattern. Their rhythmic crashing can be soothing, but they are also very powerful and unpredictable. Waves can sometimes catch beachgoers, especially children, by surprise. Encouraging children to keep an eye on the waves helps them stay mindful of their surroundings and potential wave activity. This awareness enables them to adjust their position on the beach accordingly, moving to safer areas or stepping back when necessary.

With younger children, start in the water with them. Jump over the waves together. Being in the water with them will show them how fun it can be and will help them feel how the water can push and pull them. Having your hand to hold will be a reassurance, and if they get knocked down, you’ll be right there to pick them up. 

If you have a daring child that likes to push their limits, I recommend giving them a guideline of how far to go. You might want to start with staying at or below the knees. As their abilities increase, you can let them go in up to their waist and then beyond.

Pay attention to the flags

You might notice some flags on the beach – these are very important signals and should be paid attention to closely to ensure safety and understand the current conditions. These flags serve as visual indicators that communicate important information to beachgoers. Flags provide a standardized system for conveying information about the conditions and potential hazards/risks at the beach. They serve as a clear and easily recognizable visual language that beach visitors can understand and follow.

Now, let’s explore some commonly used beach flags and their meanings (please note that flag systems may vary between beaches and countries):

Green flag:

• A green flag typically signifies calm conditions, indicating that it’s safe to swim and enjoy the water.
• It suggests that there are no significant hazards, such as strong currents or rough surf, present at that time.

Yellow flag:

• A yellow flag indicates moderate surf conditions and potential hazards.
• It advises caution to swimmers, as there may be mild to moderate currents or waves that require increased awareness and swimming ability.

Red flag:

• A red flag represents hazardous conditions, such as strong currents, large waves, or rough surf.
• It serves as a warning that swimming in the water is not recommended. Non-swimmers and inexperienced swimmers should avoid entering the water altogether.

Purple Flag:

• A purple flag is used to warn beachgoers of the presence of potentially dangerous marine life.
• It suggests that there may be jellyfish, sharks, or other marine creatures in the area, requiring increased vigilance and caution.

Checkered flag:

• A checkered flag usually indicates that the area is designated for water sports, such as surfing or kayaking, and is not intended for swimming.
• It signals that there may be specific activities (surfing only) or hazards in that particular section of the beach. When your kids are comfortable enough in the water to boogie board, skim board, swim, or surf, they will need to pay attention to the checkered flag. They will definitely not want to get in the way of the surfers! The checkered flags will show you how to stay safe by keeping you in the right area. 

Familiarize yourself with the specific flag system used at the beach you’re visiting and pay attention to any accompanying signage or instructions provided by lifeguards. By being attentive to the flags at the beach, you can stay informed about the current conditions and potential hazards, allowing you to make informed decisions about entering the water and ensuring the safety of yourself and your family.

Learn the stingray shuffle

Part of what I love about the ocean is that it’s full of life. There are sand crabs to dig for, fish swimming around, floating kelp forests, and seaweed washing onto the shore. I’ve even seen pods of dolphins jumping out of the water at some of our San Diego beaches and seals and sea lions sunbathing on the sand. Most of the time, the sea life is harmless, but one you’ll want to beware of is the stingray. 

Stingrays are commonly found in coastal areas with sandy bottoms. They typically bury themselves in the sand, making them difficult to spot. Accidentally stepping on a stingray can result in a painful sting from their barbed tail. Stingrays are usually docile creatures and sting as a defense mechanism when they feel threatened. 

I’ve spent a lot of time in the ocean and have never encountered a stingray, but I do know people who have been stung. The treatment is to submerge the sting in hot water, which lifeguards can provide. The “stingray shuffle” is a technique used to prevent accidental encounters with stingrays, particularly in shallow coastal waters. It involves shuffling your feet along the sandy bottom instead of taking regular steps. The vibrations and movement created by the shuffle alert the stingrays to your presence, allowing them to swim away before contact is made.

That’s all there is to the stingray shuffle! This one beach safety tip can save you a lot of unnecessary pain. 

Raise your hand

When you’re out in the ocean past where the waves are breaking, maybe waiting for the perfect wave to catch with your boogie board, know that you’re still visible to the lifeguards. If you notice yourself starting to get pulled by a rip current, or you just feel like you aren’t able to get back to shore, simply raise your hand. Raising your hand is a universal distress signal that alerts people on the beach, including lifeguards and other beachgoers, that you are in trouble and need assistance. By raising your hand, you attract attention and increase the likelihood of someone noticing your predicament.

Get your hand as high above your head as you can get it, and wave until you see the lifeguard coming to help. Staying calm is key. By raising your hand, you conserve energy and avoid unnecessary swimming against the current, which can lead to fatigue and potentially worsen the situation. Instead, focus on staying afloat and signaling for help.

Here is a video about how to avoid a rip current and how to successfully exit a rip current.

Respect the ocean, but have fun!

The ocean is my happy place. Swimming in the ocean makes me feel so incredibly free. While there are precautions that must be taken, spending time at the beach is extremely enjoyable. If you’re at the beach with other adults, I encourage you to ask them to take over, keeping an eye on the kids for a while, and alternate so you can take some time to get in the water yourself. Get your hair wet! Submerge yourself in the ocean, and just enjoy it! Feel the water ebb and flow. Bring a boogie board (more on boogie boarding with kids here) and catch a few waves. Riding on the power of the ocean is an unforgettable experience.

When your children see you enjoying the ocean, it will make them more likely to do the same. Teach them to respect the ocean and its powerful waves and tides by respecting it and enjoying it yourself. 

I wish I had the right words to describe how much I love the ocean. I can’t even pin down the exact reason why I feel so strongly about it. Maybe it’s the consistency of the tides, the strength of the waves, or the vastness of the waters. I’m not really sure, but I do know how I feel when I walk out of the ocean after a swim. I would describe it as walking on the clouds. I believe that the ocean is not to be feared but respected. 

As you follow these beach safety tips, you will find what a beautiful experience going to the beach can be. I hope you make some wonderful memories with your children at the beach this summer and throughout your lives. 

About the author

Wendy is a married momma living in central San Diego, CA, raising 4 human kids, 2 goat kids, 4 chickens, and one grumpy cat. She enjoys gardening, hiking, camping, backpacking, going to the beach, and generally getting out-of-doors. Wendy is a family photographer and also works at several local elementary schools as the garden educator. She dreams of traveling to all 50 states and beyond, and believes that there is great beauty to be found in all parts of the earth, we just have to open our eyes to see it.

You can find more from Wendy online in the following locations:
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Using nature as a tool 

I have three teens of my own, and I am around adolescents day in and day out. And like you, I even have experience as a teenager myself. While I am not a doctor, nor do I have any training in the mental health field, I have observations, experiences, and anecdotes that tell me this fact…teens need nature.

Teen mental health and nature have a connection. Spending time in nature can have a significant impact on teen mental health. Nature is not the only solution, but it is a powerful tool in our parenting toolbox that we can use to help our children.

We all have a deep-rooted need within us to let go and be free. Free of social constraints, free from school/household responsibilities, and free to be ourselves. Nature and outside time can give that to our teens. This post will show the reality of teen mental health today, ways nature can be an aid, and how-to solutions to help your teens through it all.

Teen mental health today

While I do not want to scare or intimidate you with statistics on the dire state of teen mental health, they are necessary to understand some of why teens are experiencing debilitating diagnoses and daily mental health struggles. Strong mental health is vital to the development of everyone, but it is especially poignant during the adolescent years as teens mature both physically and emotionally.

• Over 2.7 million youth report severe major depression.
• 22% of high school students in a recent survey said they have seriously considered suicide in the past year.
• 25% of teens have a mental health diagnosis from a professional (and this does not include teens who are either too scared to seek help or do not have access to help).

Factors affecting teen mental health

Every organization involved in teen mental health reports that these statistics are on the rise dramatically. And while there is no one single thing we can blame these statistics on, there are several that come to mind and have been cited time and again. Understanding these significant factors that impact teen mental health is crucial in developing effective strategies and interventions to support and nurture their well-being. 

Screens

First, we live in an era dominated by screens. The ubiquitous presence of social media platforms has transformed the way teens interact and perceive themselves. The constant exposure to curated online personas, cyberbullying, and social comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, isolation, and low self-esteem.

Performance pressure

The pressure to excel academically (or athletically, or extra-circularly), secure scholarships, win games, and gain admission to prestigious institutions has intensified for teenagers. Teens often experience immense stress, anxiety, and burnout due to the high expectations placed upon them. 

Traumatic experiences

Teens may experience traumatic events such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, bullying, or loss. These experiences can have long-lasting effects on their mental health, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or depression. In addition, in the U.S. significantly, we have teenagers that go to school every day, fearing that another school shooting has taken place or will take place. 

All of these factors have a tendency to draw anyone inward, but especially teenagers who are still immature in their coping mechanisms and emotional development. It’s on us as parents to help them through this. 

Teen mental health and screens

It is almost impossible to have a conversation on teen mental health without talking about screens and the content our teens are consuming on those screens. 

Access to adult content

The entertainment and media options available to teens are endless. No, it’s not all evil…but it’s not all good, either. The sheer amount of access to adult content available at their fingertips is unfathomable to most parents. In today’s digital age, explicit material is just a few clicks away, blurring the lines between what is appropriate for adult consumption and what is suitable for impressionable minds.

Exposure to adult content at an early age can have detrimental effects on teens’ cognitive development, self-image, and understanding of healthy relationships. Such content often portrays unrealistic and harmful representations of sexuality, leading to distorted perceptions, confusion, and a distorted sense of self. It can fuel feelings of inadequacy, body shaming, and pressure to conform to unrealistic standards. 

Social media

Let me give you my hot take on social media. Not only does social media demand the attention of our teens, but it demands their loyalty. Every time a teen scrolls he/she is told, “You, too, should be a beautiful person with a beautiful life…and here’s how you do it right.” In a world that preaches individualism, there sure is a lot of conformity that is expected. So, in an effort to conform, they go back to the social media that informs them on how to do it. Constant exposure to social media platforms can fuel a cycle of comparison, where teens measure their worth based on carefully curated highlight reels of their peers. This constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and a distorted self-image. 

The addictive nature of social media further exacerbates the problem, with excessive screen time replacing real-life social interactions and adversely affecting sleep patterns. The pressure to gain likes, followers, and virtual validation can create a constant sense of anxiety and a fear of missing out (FOMO). Additionally, cyberbullying, (hurtful comments, rumors, and public shaming) can inflict deep emotional scars.

Social media can make teens less social

Paradoxically, as these kids are deeply connected to their screens, they are more socially disconnected than ever. The rise of social media platforms has led to a concerning trend of teenagers becoming less socially engaged in the offline world. While these platforms promise to connect individuals, they often contribute to a decrease in face-to-face interactions and genuine human connections.

Social media can create a false sense of socialization, where likes, comments, and emojis substitute for meaningful conversations and authentic interactions. But, adolescents need peer face-to-face interaction. They need to argue and affirm in real life, not with keyboard courage or placating phrases. They need to be able to observe and read body language and facial cues so that they can understand emotions and reactions. These interactions provide a unique and irreplaceable opportunity for young individuals to learn, grow, and navigate the complexities of the world around them. They also help teenagers to develop essential social skills such as empathy, communication, and conflict resolution.

Social media shows teens what they’re missing

Furthermore, social media has the ability to make teens feel very left out and lonely when they see their friends and schoolmates posting about their activities. Remember how you and I were often blissfully unaware if other friends got together to go to a movie and you weren’t invited? That does not exist anymore. If a few kids hang out, everyone else will know about it when they Snapchat photos. You can even find them all in the same location on snap maps. Naturally, those not invited feel left out and rejected. With girls, this scenario may play out for weeks as gossip, jealousy, and competition can ensue. Of course, these have always been a part of social life, but with screens, it is all instantaneous, and everyone knows. 

Teen expectations and exhaustion

Teens also have mental fatigue. We are asking for more and more output academically, physically, and mentally than ever before. Parents often place significant pressure on teenagers to excel academically and perform well in sports, inadvertently leading to negative consequences for their mental and emotional well-being. We are telling them they need to perform harder, faster, stronger, and more adeptly than most of them are ready for. This pressure to perform can create a constant state of stress, anxiety, and fear of failure in our teenagers. They may feel overwhelmed, burnt out, and experience a loss of motivation and joy in learning or playing sports/games they used to love. 

Oftentimes, we simultaneously let them off the hook in their character development and pursuit of personal growth at the expense of performance pressure. The relentless pursuit of academic success can lead to a narrow focus on grades rather than fostering a love for learning and personal growth. The demand for excellence in one sport may keep kids from trying new sports or discovering new passions, interests, and hobbies. The constant drive for athletic achievement can also result in physical exhaustion, injuries, and mental burnout. 

A generational shift in stress

A recent study showed that 64% of teens report feeling the world is more stressful than when their parents were their age. This increased perception of stress has profound implications for their overall well-being and development. It suggests that teenagers are grappling with unique challenges and pressures that previous generations did not face to the same extent.

The modern world is characterized by rapid technological advancements, increasing academic competitiveness, social media influence, economic uncertainties, and global issues like climate change. These factors, among others, contribute to a heightened sense of pressure, uncertainty, and overwhelm for teenagers.

As parents, we hope that we’re giving our kids the best and making things easier for them than we had, but that doesn’t seem to be the case, according to many teens. There has been a generational shift, and we need to pay attention.

How nature plays a positive role in teen mental health

In a world where teenagers grapple with mounting pressures and the constant bombardment of technology, finding solace and respite in nature has become more crucial than ever. Nature has an inherent ability to heal and restore, offering a sanctuary away from the stresses and anxieties of daily life. Here are some positive benefits of spending time outside that teenagers desperately need.

Sense of calmness

One of the great benefits of nature for teens is the sense of calm it offers. In a world that is adamant to gain teens’ attention with extreme noise and flashes of glitter, nature lets their minds rest. And as their minds rest, their nervous system can relax. Anxiety is reduced as their brains take a break from the worries and cares and instead go blank.

This calmness can be experienced in a simple walk around the neighborhood or a picnic at the park. As I have personally encouraged my own teens to take a break outside, they are now implementing it themselves. I have even heard them say they crave time in nature. When they experience the sense of calmness that nature can provide, they want “the calm”!

Confidence and self-esteem

Another benefit for teens is how nature can play a part in building confidence and boosting self-esteem. My friend Tiphini says that “the biggest perk we’ve seen from pushing our teens to spend time out in nature is an unexpected boost in self-confidence. Whether they are on a multi-day paddle across Lake Superior, navigating moguls on a black diamond run, working to conquer a new mountain bike trail, or pushing themselves up the side of a mountain — they know they can do hard things. They recognize they are capable, and in the tumultuous teen years, this is something pretty special.” 

Nature provides a nurturing environment that encourages exploration, self-discovery, and personal growth. When teenagers spend time outside in nature, they are exposed to new challenges. And when they overcome their obstacles, they develop a sense of accomplishment and a belief in their abilities. Moreover, being in nature promotes a break from social comparisons and judgments, providing teenagers with an opportunity to embrace their individuality and build confidence in who they are.

Gratitude

Recently, I have been learning more about blue mind science. This is the scientific proof that spending time on, in, or near water has a positive effect on our bodies, including our mental health. Cited as one of the byproducts of blue time is awe and gratitude. There is a shift from self-focus to recognizing a larger world beyond themselves. The depths of the sea and the sea life within open up their minds to things how many things are possible, and all the things undiscovered. It’s inspiring rather than stifling. 

Stress relief

As noted above, there are physiological responses that aid in mental health as well. Studies show that nature is an antidote to stress. Some of the physical responses determined by scientific data are lower blood pressure and stress hormone levels, an enhanced immune system function, a reduction in anxiety, and an improved mood. Anyone would benefit from these things, but with the added pressures teens face, these could be game changers for their daily lives. 

Focus

When a teenager’s mind is relaxed, they are able to focus better, as well. When my teenagers are studying, I encourage them to take a break by going for a walk or a bike ride outside to clear their heads, get some fresh air, and physical activity. All these things have been linked to increased focus, a boost in creativity, and battery memory retention.

Time in nature can also foster exceptional creativity by allowing stimuli to push a teen into hyper-awareness. Moving away from “noise” allows their minds to go blank and hone in on some pretty fantastic creativity and purpose. As distractions are eliminated, a teen can see their direction more clearly and discern what gives him/her joy. 

Connection

As a mom, one of the greatest benefits of nature in a teen’s life is the way it plays a part in our connection to each other as a family. Without the pull of screens, time in nature gives me the opportunity to really talk to my teens. Without fail, times in nature are the times when my teens open up and talk about the things that matter to them. Nature gives them a place to express themselves and let them be true to themselves. 

How to use nature as a nurturer in the life of your teens

Telling your teens they need nature and “go outside” won’t really work. Telling teens anything has little effect. Instead, one method that works for our family is to model what it looks like to use nature to aid in mental health. Show your teens that taking a walk along the river or even a day in the woods to yourself is a great way to alleviate stress. Let your kids see you revert to nature when you need a break, and use outdoor time as a way to self-soothe and regulate your stress and emotions.

In addition, here are some ways you can incorporate more time outside with your teens. 

Keep it simple

If outside time is new to your teens, you may want to start with simple solutions. Serve family dinner outdoors one night. Start taking the dog for a walk in the neighborhood together every day. Pack a picnic for lunch at a local park. Set up a hammock in the backyard and make it a reading/resting spot. Your teen does not need to be “outdoorsy” or climb mountains to spend time in nature. Fresh air and sunshine in your own backyard can do so much to relax and reset. 

Try new things outside

If your teens don’t particularly have a passion or interest, this can be a great excuse to explore some new outside activities. I have found that exposure often drives teens toward nature as they find new things they try and enjoy. Fishing, surfing, sailing, trail running, and mountain biking are all ideas to let your teens give a try. When they have an activity that brings them joy, they are more likely to seek out that time in nature on their own.

Let your teen lead the way

I know this can be scary, but teens are moving toward adulthood, and independence — they crave it. Give your teen the opportunity to choose and plan something that excites them. Rock climbing may not be your idea of fun, but if it is something your teen wants to explore and it gets them outside, why would you stand in the way? If snowboarding is an outlet for your teen to burn off stress, don’t you want to encourage that? The bottom line here is to let them have an idea and then let them find a plan to make it happen.

Encourage your teens to invite friends

There is no denying that teens function in peer groups, and the pack mentality is strong during the adolescent years. In a post-covid world, though, there is less emphasis on face-to-face interactions. Use outdoor time as a way to help your teens reconnect with their peers. Activities in nature are an easy way to gather groups together for fun. River tubing, bonfires, frisbee golf, beach games, cliff/waterfall jumping, and campouts bring teens together and give them the freedom to have fun and connect together in nature.

The connection between teen mental health and nature

I hope I have made the case for the connection that exists between teen mental health and nature. My own teens tell me (and their friends) they need time outside. I  recently overheard my teenage daughter on the phone with a friend talking about feeling like she was drowning in schoolwork and responsibilities. She admitted that she just wanted to get outside and take a hike…preferably in Washington state, where there was no cell service. (Note: a few summers ago, we hiked in Olympic National Park, and I guess she realized how wonderful it really was to disconnect and be free from the daily grind. That trip paid off!)

It made me so happy to hear her realize that getting outside and into nature was her first response to stress and her go-to coping mechanism. That has been my goal, to give my teens an awareness of their mental health state and to provide them with a solution to help them cope. Getting outside helps them get back to a renewed place, ready to face the next challenge in life. 

How do you help your teen get outside?
Do you feel it helps?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
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Now is the time to create your summer bucket list

As the weather begins to transition from the coolness of winter to the warmth of summer, there is a sense of renewal and anticipation in the air. Spring brings a renewed energy and a feeling of excitement, making it the perfect time to brainstorm and plan for the upcoming summer adventures. Summer will be here before you know it, so it’s time to get started on your summer bucket list.

As a kid, summer felt everlasting. As an adult, it feels like we blink three times, and it’s over.  By starting to make your summer bucket list now, you can maximize your summer fun as you plan! You have ample time to research, gather information, and make necessary arrangements for the activities on your bucket list. Whether it’s booking campsites, researching hiking trails, or planning day trips to local attractions, having a head start allows you to secure reservations and ensure smooth logistics.

In this post, you’ll find tips and tricks for creating a summer bucket list to help set your summer up for success– supporting memorable adventures and family growth. Whether you seek thrilling escapades, tranquil explorations, or moments of pure relaxation, the options are endless for a summer filled with outdoor adventure.

What’s a summer bucket list?

A summer bucket list is a collection of activities, experiences, and goals you and your family want to accomplish during the summer. It’s a way to create a roadmap of adventures, both big and small, that will make the most of the season. By involving your kids in the process of creating a summer bucket list, you not only empower them to have a say in the family’s activities but also foster their creativity, curiosity, and sense of exploration.

Creating a bucket list together allows your kids to dream big and think outside the box while actively participating in the planning process. Making a summer bucket list together as a family not only builds anticipation and excitement but also strengthens the bond between family members as you embark on shared experiences and create lifelong memories. It encourages quality time spent together, away from screens and distractions, and enables you to discover new places, try new activities, and explore the beauty of nature together. It’s a chance to break away from routines, step out of your comfort zone, and make the most of the fleeting summer months.

We are a bucket list family

I am a BIG bucketlist person. We, collectively as a family, make one every season to ensure we are intentional about setting goals and carving out time for the things we value most. Bucket lists can help increase buy-in (from everyone), keep us on the same page, and help ensure we’re living our lives with intention. 

If you’re new to bucket lists, summer is the perfect season to start. The long days and forgiving schedule of summer make bucket lists both exciting (for dreaming) and invaluable (for structure and planning). For me, it’s crucial that my bucket lists are diverse in both intensity and scope. I include goals that are big and challenging, and also the small, easy-to-accomplish glue-like pieces that keep us moving and happy. We need it all!

How to make a summer bucket list together as a family

We always make our seasonal bucket lists together as a family. In many ways, treat it as a code we’re committing to because in order for any of the stuff to happen, we all have to be on board, invested, and involved in the pieces. Everyone also naturally has their own ideas, interests, and priorities; sharing these can be really grounding as a family. 

When planning your summer bucket list with your kids, it’s essential to foster open and engaging conversations that allow everyone’s ideas to be heard and considered. There are so many ways to frame this process, but essentially we just sit down and talk about what sorts of things we want to do and dig into this coming season.

The planning process is an opportunity to bond, communicate, and create a shared vision for the summer. Encourage your kids to express themselves freely and embrace their imaginative ideas. By involving them in the decision-making, you empower them to take ownership of the summer bucket list and ensure a memorable and fulfilling summer for the entire family.

How to plan and research your summer bucket list activities

Researching and selecting activities for your family’s summer bucket list can be an exciting and enriching process. Here are some tips to help you research and choose activities that will make your summer truly memorable:

Gather inspiration

Start by gathering inspiration from various sources. Look for travel blogs, websites, magazines, and social media platforms that feature family-friendly activities and destinations. Follow outdoor adventure pages and explore hashtags (including #runwildmychild) related to family adventures and summer activities. Pinterest can also be a great resource for visual inspiration and ideas.

Utilize online resources such as travel websites, outdoor recreation websites, and review platforms. These resources often provide detailed information about popular attractions, hiking trails, water parks, campsites, and other outdoor activities. Read reviews and look for activities that have positive feedback and align with your family’s interests.

Seek local recommendations

Reach out to friends, family, and local community groups for recommendations of things to do nearby. Ask for their favorite outdoor activities, hidden gems, unique attractions, or family-friendly events happening in your area during the summer. Local tourism websites or visitor centers can also provide valuable information on attractions and activities suitable for families.

Consider age, interests, and skill levels

Take into account the age, interests, and skill levels of your family members when selecting activities. Ensure that the activities you choose are suitable and enjoyable for everyone involved. Look for options that offer varying difficulty levels or have options for beginners and more experienced participants. Discuss your family’s shared interests in outdoor activities. Talk about the activities you enjoy as a family, such as hiking, biking, swimming, camping, or picnicking. Explore any new activities they might want to try, such as stand-up paddleboarding, rock climbing, or fly fishing.

Weather and seasonal considerations

Consider the weather and seasonal factors when planning your activities. Some activities, like swimming, boating, or water sports, are perfect for hot summer days, while others, like hiking or nature walks, may be more enjoyable during cooler parts of the day. Make sure to plan accordingly to optimize your experiences. 

Mix thrills and tranquility

Be sure to include a mix of thrilling and relaxing activities in your summer bucket list to cater to different interests and preferences within your family. This can range from adventurous activities like ziplining or kayaking to tranquil experiences like picnicking in a beautiful park, reading outside in a hammock, or stargazing on a clear night.

Look for learning opportunities

Look for activities that provide opportunities for learning and personal growth, for both adults and kids. This could involve visiting museums, historical sites, or nature reserves where your family can discover and appreciate new knowledge and perspectives.

Our bucket list planning process

There’s no right or wrong way to choose the activities on your summer bucket list. Some folks love websites and books for ideas and inspiration. We’re big map people, so inevitably, a map always gets pulled out somewhere in our planning process. 

In planning our summer bucket list, we usually try to include the following activities:

• 1-2 big summer adventures
• 6-10 “can’t do summer without” type activities
• 1-2 ongoing home-based activities
• 4-8 challenges

These numbers are obviously fluid and can be changed according to your family’s needs and desires. Every family has a different capacity and schedule. My husband is a teacher, so we have full-on open family summers. This means our summer bucket list goals are quite ambitious, to maximize our time together as a complete family unit.

Consider what would work best for your family, both for your time and your budget. You want your bucket list to feel inspiring, not overwhelming, so while you can certainly get ambitious, don’t stress out about having to do it all. Make it manageable and set yourself up for success, so don’t layer on more than you can handle.

Big summer adventures

We usually add 1-2 “big summer adventures” to our summer bucket list. These are the adventures that push your edge and require more planning and prep. Usually, this means travel, reservations, potential gear investments, and vacation time taken from work.

In order to hone in on what these should be, think about what you currently do that your whole family enjoys and is within your comfort zones, and then push into this. It’s incredible how habitual we can become, and how much we miss out on as a result. Use this summer to lean into what you love, and plan an adventure that will push you a bit further.

• Do you always go to the same beach or trail? This summer, make a goal to check out some new places. Find trails using the Alltrails app or look up local Land Trusts.
• Want to adventure with friends? Find a local playgroup or family meet-up, such as a Forest Playgroup or Hike it Baby branch, or set a day each week that you’re going to adventure with friends. Don’t have a group in your area? Start one! Be an adventure friend to others. 
• Feel comfortable on day trips? Level up and plan an overnight camping trip! Check out a local campground. Don’t wait to make reservations as many campgrounds, particularly these days, book up and book up fast. If it’s your first time camping, chose a campground in an area you’re familiar with. We’ve got a great resource for parents camping with kids for the first time. 
• Car camping pro? Why not try backpacking! Pick a hike-in site next time you make a reservation, or plan an overnight backpacking or canoe camping trip. Regardless of how many packing lists you check out, prepping for these trips will be a learning curve. Surrender to that reality and trust that once you can figure out how to go light in a way that makes sense for your family, the world becomes your oyster.

Plan easily doable adventures

It’s clutch to have easily doable adventures on your bucket list. These are the small activities or gatherings that don’t take a ton of planning or prep, but you want to make sure you don’t go the whole summer without missing! These can be the tried-and-true summer traditions that you do every year, or new small things you’ve been wanting to try. Write them down to make sure you don’t breeze past them.

• Ice cream party (either at that favorite ice cream shop, or buy the supplies and have an ice cream party picnic somewhere)
• Sunset picnic
• Sunrise hike
• Fish a nearby river
• Explore a “new to you” park or hiking trail
• Scenic bike ride
• Baseball game 
• Family movie night (in the backyard or at a drive-in)
• Friend/cousin sleepover
• Swimming at your nearby beach or pool
• Pick-your-own fruit at an orchard
• Fort slumber party
• Beach BBQ with friends
• Kids’ “yes” day (Pro tip: Set guidelines in advance to set them up for success)

Map out some all-weather challenges

Sure, sunshine and summer feel kind of synonymous, but there inevitably will be some not-beach-perfect days. With our changing climate, we never know just how many perfect summer days we’ll have each year. Therefore, we always plan for this by including some “all-weather” activities and challenges on our bucket list.

• Go for a hike in the rain. (One further: After, have kids create a packing list for all the things they need when hiking in the rain.)
• Search for amphibians in the woods on a wet day (One further: Do research on the species you found and create a bio card about it)
• Fly a kite on a windy day (One further: Go to multiple fields on a windy day, track the windspeed at each site, and compare how the kite flew differently.)
• Create a watercolor painting on a stormy day (One further: Track the clouds with timed watercolor paintings throughout the day.)
• Build a leakproof fort outside when it’s raining (One further: Have them sketch their structure like an engineer.)
• Track the sounds of nature when it’s storming (One further: Research how weather affects birds, and what clues you can tune into to know when a storm is approaching.)

Engage in ongoing home-based activities

While much of summer adventuring happens outside of the home, make sure to include some home-based activities on your summer bucket list. Having some creative and engaging projects can help make home time feel both slow and meaningful. 

• Raise a monarch (One further: document its development with a monarch journal)
• Plant a garden (One further: Make a garden map. Track growth and harvest on a calendar. Kids create a responsibility chart for garden maintenance.)
• Make a recipe book (One further: Have kids illustrate step-by-step recipe instructions.)
• Make art (One further: Visit an art museum and map out key features– artist bios, art piece descriptions, etc. Have kids chart out their own art show. Kids create invites, with bios, to invite family/friends. They write descriptions for their pieces. Design their art displays. Prepare hors d’oeuvres, etc)
• Reading Challenge (Many local libraries have excellent summer reading programs. If yours doesn’t, make your own up. A simple board game blueprint with reading time goals and incentives along the way can be magic.)
• Put on a talent show (One further: Let each kid choose their talent to perform for an audience. Let them create tickets and a program. Invite friends, neighbors, and family. Maybe they want to sell refreshments and set up seating arrangements.) 

Curate some kid challenges

Summer is a great time to build kid life skills and let your kids take on greater responsibility. What better way to do this than through fun challenges? We always love to think about what are some of the “next level” things our kids are ready for, and how we can get some practice through fun challenges.

Integrate these into your bucket list by including a few “kid challenges.” Don’t name the actual task on the bucket list, but instead, write “kid challenge,” pick a day, and give them a card that maps out their challenge. They check off a kid challenge on the bucket list when they complete it. Some kids may need more help if these are new skills. There’s no cheating here; make a checklist of things they need to remember in order to succeed. 

Here are some fun ideas for kid challenges that not only challenge them, but teach them skills in the process: 

• Kids pack for the beach/a hike/an overnight sleepover
• Let the kids plan and cook dinner (from making a grocery list to serving)
• Kids bake a dessert for a friend or neighbor
• Have them make and deliver breakfast in bed for the parents
• Kids do their own laundry– from hamper to drawer
• Build map reading skills by letting them plan a route for a family bike ride

Support the spontaneous

Part of the beauty of summer is having greater time and space for spontaneity. Allow your bucket lists to hold space for the magic of in-the-moment adventures and plan-making. If you have a hard time with spontaneous plan-making, include that in your bucket list as one of your challenges! Add “Say yes to a spontaneous adventure with friends” as one of your bucket list items. Just having that intention out there may make it easier to prioritize and make happen.

Final notes on summers with kids

At best, we have 18 summers with our kids. Sure, there are lots of variables there and different definitions, but I think about this A LOT. Particularly, as my oldest is just about to turn 10, which means we’re over the halfway mark. This keeps a lot in perspective and pushes me to really make the most of each day we have together. I think about all the ways that I want him and his sister to remember the seasons of their childhood, which are all too fleeting. And arguably, there is no season more memorable than summer. 

This is the first summer in 5 years we’ll be in our home State of Maine. After traveling around North America and Central America over the last few years, I have decided that nowhere beats a summer in New England. (There’s something magical about loving where you live.) The weather is glorious, there are clean rivers and lakes, the ocean water is warm(ish), and there is a plethora of epic outdoor adventuring– from lobstering to hiking, and everything in between.

Most importantly, Maine is home, so I know exactly when my favorite wildflowers are in bloom, what beaches have the sweetest tide pools, and the best spots to watch the sunset. The summer countdown is officially on, so we’re soon to be charting out our summer bucket list– tapping into the joys of home and making sure to discover new places and push ourselves to try different things. 

What will you include in your summer bucket list?

About the author

Courtney’s the homeschooling mother of two wild and kind kids, the founder of 2 non-profit organizations, an avid traveler, and a passionate experiential educator. She has spent the better part of the last two decades traveling around the US and Central America – first as a part of her traveling high school, where she lived out of a converted school bus and slept in tents every night for 4 years, and, more recently, traveling with her family – from following animal migration routes to Mexico to fishing in Southeast Alaska. Rooted in Maine, she is passionate about immersive education. When not on the road with her family, she is busy organizing educational immersives, from tapping maple trees to tagging Monarchs and facilitating outdoor adventure programs, from hiking to ice fishing. Whether hauling lobster traps or monitoring salamanders, she works to make learning fun, engaging and interactive. She’s excited to share her love for nature, travel, and outdoor adventures with the Run Wild My Child community.

You can find more from Courtney online in the following locations:
Instagram: @wildmigrationfamily
Website: Wild Migration
RWMC posts: Courtney Cronin

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What is an “adventure friend”?

One of my firm beliefs is that we are shaped by those we choose to spend our time with. Our “village.” They’re not with us purely for emotional support and food drop-offs in hard times, but to inadvertently provide a magnetic pull towards life, towards new experiences and adventure.

What’s more, a good adventure friend is there at the base of your wagon, yanking your wheels out of the rut you’ve been traveling on. Next, they send you careening down a wildflower-covered hill, and they are right there beside you, hollering all the way down! They are generally the ones texting you with their latest crazy idea and asking, are you keen? 

Where it started 

As a new mother six years ago, I made a friend at a local playgroup who was an ex-hiking guide. We would organize to strap the babies to our chests and hike trails every week that had us puffing and red-faced. When we’d arrive at the destination and unstrap our babies, I’d marvel at what we’d achieved.

Having a friend who invited me out each week to places I sometimes didn’t even know existed empowered me to get out of my physical comfort zone. It helped me to settle into a parenting rhythm that suited an outdoorsy spirit. Those adventures have inspired me through to the here and now.

When you’re just getting started taking kids on adventures, it’s daunting. But, with every adventure, confidence is gained, and boundaries widen a little further. Adventures start small and build as you gain experience in your outings, confidence in your abilities, and curiosity in what else you can accomplish!

Why spending time outside with friends is important

Spending time outside in your area with friends can be an excellent way to foster a sense of connection and appreciation for your community. From exploring local parks and hiking trails to discovering hidden gems and natural wonders, spending time outside strengthens the bonds you have with each other, as well as makes you more appreciative of where you live. And living in a place that you love can have a significant impact on your mood, attitude, and overall mental health. When you feel connected to your surroundings and your community, it can provide a sense of security, belonging, and fulfillment. Furthermore, it can help to reduce stress levels and alleviate anxiety.

Outdoor activities often involve physical movement, whether it’s hiking, biking, playing sports, or simply exploring nature. Engaging in these activities with friends adds an element of fun and motivation, making it more likely that we’ll participate in regular physical activity. Spending time outside promotes cardiovascular health, improves fitness levels, boosts energy, and reduces the risk of various health issues.

How can having adventure friends help get our kids outside?

Having “adventure friends” can play a significant role in encouraging children (and their parents) to spend more time outdoors. Here are several ways in which adventure friends can help get kids outside:

Peer power

Kids are often more likely to listen to their friends rather than us as parents, often emulate their friends’ behaviors, and generally aren’t keen to miss out on any excitement being had by others. When their friends are enthusiastic about outdoor adventures, children are more likely to be motivated to join in and explore the outdoors as well. This positive peer pressure can be a handy tool while out on the trail. Positive peer influence can create a sense of excitement and encouragement for outdoor activities. The shared joy of being outside together can help foster a love of the outdoors.

Getting out the door

Have you heard of the doorstep mile? It’s a concept that means the first step out of the door is the longest step of any adventure. We might have miles of trails on our ‘to-do’ list, or new experiences we’ve wanted to try but haven’t quite been able to because taking that very first step is the hardest. Having friends that lure you outside with the promise of socialization and accountability while trying something new can shorten that doorstep mile considerably until it’s just a normal step, after all.

Safety and supervision

Sometimes it can feel scary or intimidating to try new adventures with your kids on your own. Adventure friends can provide an additional layer of safety and supervision when engaging in outdoor activities. With more people involved, other parents and kids can look out for each other, help in case of emergencies, and ensure a safer outdoor experience overall. Parents may also feel more comfortable allowing their children to explore the outdoors when they have responsible adventure friends accompanying them.

Photo credit: Kristen from @kristcx

Expand your horizons by trying new things

Adventure friends can introduce us and our kids to new outdoor activities and hobbies they might not have otherwise discovered. Each friend brings their own interests and experiences, broadening the range of outdoor adventures available to children. Trying new activities can be exciting and encourages kids to step out of their comfort zones. Having friends that are willing to brave all types of conditions and challenges can expose your kids to new experiences and inspire them to try something they’ve never tried before.

Socialization, teamwork & support

Spending time outdoors with adventure friends promotes socialization and teamwork skills. Kids learn to communicate, cooperate, and collaborate with others while navigating outdoor challenges or engaging in group activities. These skills are essential for building healthy relationships and fostering social development. Adventure friends also provide support and encouragement when outside on adventures, making outdoor activities more enjoyable and rewarding. Friends can motivate each other to push their limits, overcome obstacles, and try new things. This support system helps children build confidence, resilience, and a positive attitude toward outdoor exploration.

Tips on finding adventure friends

Making new friends as a parent can be hard and intimidating. Add on top of that, trying to find other parents with shared interests and kids around the same age as yours. Location can also be a hurdle; maybe you’ve moved and have struggled to make friends in your new area. Alternatively, it could be that you don’t feel comfortable talking with strangers.

Finding friends who are interested in outdoor adventures can also be an exciting process for families. Here are some tips to help you connect with like-minded individuals who can join you on outdoor adventures. Try some of these suggestions if you feel like you’ve struggled to find your crew.

1. Participate in community events

Finding and participating in community events that promote the outdoors can be a great way to meet like-minded people. Keep an eye out for community events that promote outdoor activities. Events such as de-trashing, conservation and land care, charity walks, festivals, fairs, and working bees. By attending such events, you increase your chances of meeting other families who enjoy outdoor adventures.

Check if your child’s school or community center offers outdoor programs or summer camps focused on adventure activities. This can be a great way for your child to meet other kids with similar interests, and it can open doors for building relationships with other families who enjoy outdoor adventures.

2. Use social media and online communities as a tool

Many groups that focus on adventure enthusiasts and outdoor activities have groups online that are easy to join. These groups will often share information about upcoming activities and events related to their specific interest. Join relevant forums or Facebook groups in your area to connect with other families who share your passion for the outdoors. Once you find a person or two that’s interested, plan and coordinate adventures together.

If imposter syndrome is stopping you from joining a group that centers around an activity you’re interested in but haven’t yet tried, you could try observing until you feel comfortable interacting.

3. Organize your own events

If you can’t find any local groups that you want to join, consider creating your own event and inviting people along. When I had my first baby, I was shocked that there were no baby-wearing hiking groups in the area. I created a page on Facebook where I could invite other parents to join, and then planned walks for our group. This was mostly through word of mouth and people sharing my page with people they thought might be interested. It gained traction quickly and was so much fun for me and my baby. 

Photo credit: Kristen from @kristcx

Ways to be an adventure friend yourself 

It’s one thing to have friends that encourage us to live life fully and get us adventuring, but it’s extra fulfilling to be this friend in return. By being an adventure friend, you can inspire and support other families in their outdoor pursuits, helping them create lasting memories and a love for nature and adventure. Here are some things that might be helpful to keep in mind.

Extend the invitation 

Don’t shy away from reaching out to someone, even if they are only an acquaintance, and asking them to join you on an adventure. Invite other families to join you on your outdoor adventures. Whether it’s a hiking trip, a day at the beach, or a picnic in the park, including other families creates opportunities for shared experiences and fosters a sense of community. Take the initiative to organize group activities for families. Plan outings, such as group hikes, nature walks, or bike rides. Coordinate logistics, suggest meeting points, and create a sense of excitement around the event. This can take the pressure off other families to plan everything and make it easier for them to participate.

Be specific

It helps to be specific in the initial invitation to set them up for success and set their expectations. Include the activity that you are thinking of doing, some helpful info, and a few available times that you are free to do it that might work with their schedule. This goes for online groups as well. 

For example, it’s more successful to say something like: “Hello! I’m planning a hike in the Roan Mountain Highlands with my kids soon. The hike I’m looking at is a 1-mile loop, perfect for little kids and taking our time. We’re free on Tuesday mornings (9-1) and Thursday afternoons (11-3) if anyone is interested in joining us. My kids’ ages are 3 and 6. I’d be happy to send you a list of a few items to bring if that helps. Let me know if you have any questions!”

That’s much better than: “Is anyone interested in going on a hike soon?”

Photo credit: Michelle from @wonderclubexplorers

Be responsible and helpful

If you have outdoor gear or equipment that other families may need, offer to lend or share them. This can be especially helpful for families who are new to outdoor activities and may not have all the necessary gear. Sharing resources can make outdoor adventures more affordable and accessible for everyone. Handy things while out adventuring might include letting your buddies know that you’re carrying a first aid kit or that you’ve got a picnic blanket big enough to share.

Share your knowledge

Offer your expertise and share your experiences with outdoor activities. Be the person that provides recommendations for family-friendly hiking trails, camping spots, or fun outdoor destinations. Share tips on gear, safety, and planning to help make their adventures smoother. If you have the knowledge and experience to help others, be sure to do it! 

Photo credit: @sara_mccarty

Emphasize inclusivity and adaptability

Be mindful of the needs and abilities of the families you’re supporting. Ensure that activities are inclusive and adaptable to accommodate different skill levels, ages, and preferences. Consider activities that can be enjoyed by everyone and make adjustments as needed to ensure everyone feels included and comfortable.

Be supportive

With adventures come challenges; that’s why we love them! Be a source of support and encouragement for other families as they embark on outdoor adventures. Offer words of encouragement, provide reassurance, and help build their confidence. Share stories of your own challenges and how you overcame them to inspire and motivate them. Be conscious and respectful of the physical limits of your adventure buddies. Stick together, and if the need arises to turn around halfway, then let them know that’s ok and you’ve still had a fun adventure!

Document the fun

Be the friend that snaps candid moments of your adventure buddy and their kids. I usually take lots of photos of my kids enjoying the outdoors, but I have hardly any of the kids, and I adventuring altogether. Being able to send a few photos to your friend of her adventures with her little ones when the day is done can help them visualize their accomplishments and encourage them to be proud of what they’ve achieved. A photo like that might mean the world to her (I know it would to me). They also then have something extra to share on social media (if that’s their jam) to mark the occasion.

Photo credit: Meghan from @meghangarriott

Having adventure buddies from afar 

Sometimes, there’s nothing quite like the trusty friends we have already made along the journey of life. But, oftentimes, those friends might scatter near and far as time goes by. If you have friends like this that don’t live nearby, consider trying these ideas to inspire each other from afar.

Set common goals

Establish mutual challenges or goals that you and your friend can work towards together, even from afar. For example, you could set a goal to hike a certain number of trails each month or year. Keep in touch about your progress and check in with your friends on theirs. Make time to tell the stories that go along with the adventures and it’ll feel like you were there! 

Stay connected

Keeping up regular contact makes it easier to help inspire each other. Share photos and videos of adventures you’ve had, or consider video calling from a campsite or trail if there is enough reception to share the joy. Highlight the fun and positive aspects of being in nature and engaging in outdoor activities. Seeing your enthusiasm and experiences can inspire them to seek similar adventures. Schedule video calls or virtual hangouts with your friends and their kids. During these sessions, discuss outdoor activities, share ideas, and plan future adventures together. This can help maintain a connection and keep the conversation focused on outdoor pursuits.

Share ideas

You can send each other articles, events, online challenges, books, or documentaries related to your shared interests. Discuss your thoughts on what’s shared and what new ideas for the future might form during the discussion. If you know the area where your friends live (or follow other social media accounts in that area), share recommendations for local outdoor spots, parks, or trails that are suitable for families. Send them articles, blog posts, or resources about the benefits of outdoor play and the importance of nature for children’s development. Provide information about local outdoor programs, nature centers, or family-oriented events that they might find interesting.

Photo credit: Kristen from @kristcx

In honor of our adventure friends

Here’s to our free-spirited adventure friends. May we keep embracing the wild and keep challenging each other. You are the ones who have laughed with us at suddenly being caught in hail. The ones that delight in our toddlers getting covered in mud, while wondering if we’ve remembered a change of clothes this time. You’ve known which plants we can forage and the hiding places of wild creatures. You’ve taken us along on adventures that felt challenging alone, but not only conquerable yet enjoyable with you.

With you, we’ve gotten outdoors, and life has been interesting and empowering.

But most importantly, you’ve filled the lives of our children with natural beauty and wonder. Thank you.

Photo credit: Emily from @inclusivelibrary

Who are your adventure friends?
Where/how did you meet them?
What’s your next adventure?

About the author

Jacqui and her two intrepid kids call that little island on the bottom of Australia home. Most people know it as Tasmania, but in the indigenous language of palawa kani, it is known as lutriwita, and it is a stunning place to live and explore. In a way, Jacqui lets the local landscapes be her co-parent, having realized early on in her parenting journey that the kids are happiest when they’re outside. Jacqui has a background in natural health, but these days she’s hung up that hat to parent full-time while the kids are still young. You can usually find them at a beach, rock-hopping, hiking, camping, jumping into rivers, or sipping chai teas while the sun rises. Among friends, Jacqui is known for never going anywhere without a Jetboil, telling long stories, having her head in a book, and whisking the kids away on ambitious adventures.

You can find more from Jacqui online in the following locations:
Instagram: @tiny.adventures.often
RWMC posts: Jacqui Hazell

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Autism and the outdoors

How often do you see children with developmental differences when you are outdoors? How many families with children with additional needs actively and purposefully make the most of their natural surroundings?

I’m the mum of an awesome, adventurous, and autistic boy. Today, I want to give you an overview of what autism is, how spending time outside and in nature can benefit autistic kids, and encourage you to take your unique family outside and discover what nature has to offer. 

What is autism?

Autism is a life-long, neurodevelopmental condition. Every person diagnosed with autism experiences difficulties in communicating and interacting with the world and has repetitive patterns of behaviour and thought. Autistic people may also have different ways of learning, moving, or paying attention. 

Core symptoms of autism, differences in sensory processing, and possible learning difficulties combine to create a plethora of difficulties in the everyday lives of autistic children and their families.

What autism means to our family

Dear readers, I hope this gloomy and serious introduction to autism did not put you off, and I’m glad you’re still here reading.

Let me take a minute for introductions. I’m Anna, and my older son, Stefan, is autistic.

This means that the above description relates to Stefan, and his autism diagnosis is one which we have to accept and embrace. However, I’m here to tell you that our lives aren’t doom and gloom at all.  His diagnosis isn’t at either extreme – Stefan is not a boy locked in a glass dome, and neither is he an antisocial genius. He has severe learning difficulties, and his autistic presentations are complex. But he also is a little boy who loves trains, washing machines, and being outside.

This post is about how nature makes him happy.

Our journey with autism

Stefan’s autism was mentioned for the first time when he was two and a half years old. Once the professionals suggested that Stefan might be autistic, I went online and read all I could about the condition. Most of what I found was written in a negative tone. Yet, I was determined that our story would not be a negative one.

I’ve experimented on Stefan more than I am comfortable admitting. Autism affects each person differently, meaning that autistic people have unique strengths and challenges and different treatment needs. I tried Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA), the Son-Rise programme, and some other treatments and programs I found on the internet to see if anything would make a difference. Unfortunately, I didn’t feel like any of it was doing us any good.

So, I enrolled to do a degree in Autism at the University of Strathclyde to better understand what we were dealing with and how I could help my son. I struggled at the beginning of the course because it was all about impairments and deficits. But, eventually, we were given a bigger picture. We were told to consider what would be really important for an autistic person and what practical things we could do to improve their quality of life.

Ditching therapies for outdoor play

The course leader at the time, Dr. Anna Robinson, specialises in autistic welfare. While studying the well-being module, I found my path. I stopped searching for therapies and started looking at what makes my child happy.

Outdoors was always a place where he could be himself. So, we started paying bigger attention to free play, muddy fun, and child-led exploration. And this is where our positive story began and our son began to thrive.

Accepting changes through outdoor activities 

I remember our walks to and from Stefan’s preschool when he was little. They had to be exactly the same. He would insist on sameness and rebel if I wanted to change our route or anything about our walk.

But, these walks had alterations as seasons changed and some degree of unpredictability (as happens in nature). Looking back, making a daily walk outdoors a part of our routine allowed some openness to changes because of the weather, time of the year, temperatures, and situations we encountered on our way home. Just experiencing nature as it changes, allowed Stefan to experience change on a level he could accept and handle. 

“Early years” day trips

Stefan’s diagnostic path started when we moved home. We left a big city behind and moved to a tiny town in Cumbria, UK. Despite having a toddler and a baby, we wanted to discover new places and enjoy the vicinity of the sea and mountains.

Our trips out were often short, but they brought us joy and gave us a good variety of experiences with Stefan. He loved running around and not being restricted in how he behaved and what he could do. Being outside gave him a newfound sense of freedom to explore his body and his surroundings. We found that choosing outdoors over indoors was more beneficial and brought more contentment for all of us.

Getting outside the comfort zone

Every day trip, our little out-of-the-town adventures, were taking Stefan away from places he was familiar with. I don’t think we realised back then how important this was for his development. Desensitising him to changes, obstacles, and different environments was challenging. However, putting him in new situations also evokes curiosity, which neurotypical children are naturally equipped with.

Stefan, possibly, was curious about the world around him too, but he was very cautious. I don’t think his curiosity would come naturally to him had we not helped him overcome obstacles related to exploring new places and getting out of his routine. I believe he learned to enjoy exploring through these outings, rather than being born curious or with a desire to explore. Or maybe he was born to explore but had to be given tools to overcome his fears? Either way, we are proud that he found his way to be openly and happily curious. 

Spontaneity for outdoor adventures

Getting outside and going on adventures allowed us more spontaneity. Usually, day trips and local walks were planned, and we always gave Stefan enough time to accept the fact that we were taking him somewhere.

However, we also had moments when we would, for instance, arrange a quick trip to the seaside because the weather was lovely. A change of routine like this could be very difficult for some autistic children. But with time, he accepted non-planned outings and could be happy with the last-minute changes in plans. His love for the outdoors is bigger than his love for a set routine. 

Mistakes and discomforts

I don’t want to give you the wrong impression…we aren’t perfect parents. We make mistakes like everyone else. For example, last Easter, we went hiking and forgot water. We had a choice of turning round and going home, going to the nearest town and buying water, or going for a hike and drinking stream water (don’t try it yourselves – the water where you live might upset your stomach). The weather was glorious for the first time in ages, so, we went on! We drank stream water, hiked for four hours, and bagged three new peaks. It was worth it!

As parents, we are often scared of making mistakes and experiencing discomfort. But, making mistakes show our children that life isn’t always perfect and teach them to look for solutions. Mistakes happen, but when we approach them as learning opportunities, not as failures or something we should escape from, we all benefit.

Stefan’s sensory profile

When Stefan was around three years old, we noticed that he started touching people whenever he was near them. He also ran his hand alongside fences and walls when we walked. He engaged in running and falling on his knees, on purpose.  He also liked running into walls and trees, at high speed, and bouncing off them, often falling. I was concerned that he would injure himself and didn’t understand the purpose of it. Then, I went to a talk that introduced me to proprioception and the vestibular system.

Sensory processing differences

Learning that we have more than five senses was a revelation to me. I also learned that the senses can be over-sensitive (too much input causes discomfort or pain) or under-responsive (a child is craving for more input). This can be compared to eating soup: too salty isn’t tasty, so we don’t want it, and not enough salt makes us want to add more salt. This was really eye-opening and made a lot of sense. However, I then learned that my child’s senses can be simultaneously under and over-sensitive. This was just too much. I didn’t understand how the same soup can be too salty one day and not salty enough another.

Physiotherapy at playgrounds 

In the UK, autistic families do not have the support of physiotherapists, unless their child’s mobility is seriously affected. In our case, another university lecture I attended brought us some answers we needed. The lecturer encouraged me to use children’s playgrounds as a form of physiotherapy, as playground equipment is designed to support children’s physical development.

Playgrounds were not our favourite places. Stefan had a hard time with them because of the noise and all the other children. However, with therapy in mind, we looked for a playground that was quiet and often unoccupied and found one in a tiny village nearby. Always empty, it became a regular place to go after school and started using it as a form of physiotherapy. 

Proprioception (body awareness) and autism

Stefan’s intentional crashing and banging into things and his habit of touching people and walls, finally, had a word attached to them: proprioception. His proprioception was dysregulated. With this definition came an answer. We were told to push him hard on a swing, undertake rough play, play animal movements, wheelbarrow, jump on a trampoline, run, climb, and engage him in all activities referred to as “heavy work.” 

We loved this task, and it made such a big difference for him. We continued making trips to our playground and started using nature with body awareness activities in mind. We would climb boulders at the seaside, climb trees, jump off small ledges, do a lot of silly running, rolling down hills, pushing, pulling, and exploring all animal walks. With time, it all paid off.

Did you guess we had a lot of fun too? Yes, we did!

Vestibular system (balance) and the outdoors

From an early age, Stefan could spin around (for longer than I could watch) without ever feeling dizzy. He was never sick in a car. I’m the opposite; as an adult, I still experience travel sickness, and watching him spin caused me to get nauseous.

I was told that spinning was a possible sign of autism and I just accepted it as such. Alongside improving Stefan’s body awareness, we worked on Stefan’s balance. As I mentioned before, physiotherapy wasn’t available to us, but I had guidance from one of my lecturers and took it upon myself to help him in this area.

The outdoors was the perfect place to work on balance. We walked on every fallen tree, every stone wall, and up and down every hill. We walked in fallen leaves, in the snow, and over muddy squishy ground.

And yes, it did pay off! And yes, it was fun!  Today, when I went for a bike ride with Stefan, and he was riding uphill, out of the saddle, I remember how unachievable this felt a couple of years ago…

Speech and language therapy (SLT) and the outdoors

Stefan’s lack of communication was one of the red flags of autism when he was little. Not only did he not have speech (bilingualism was an excuse at the time), but he wasn’t interested in communicating with us or anybody else.

However, when he was outside, he was happy and more relaxed. Stefan was often more responsive and more communicative outside than when indoors. Playing in nature often required our help, which he needed to indicate, and we often didn’t offer until he made an effort to interact. Being outside also gave us an opportunity to teach Stefan many, many words and introduce him to the concept of natural variety.

Learning through outdoor experiences

When Stefan was first diagnosed with autism, we often worked on putting together two-piece jigsaw puzzles of animals. One of them was a brown cow. After a few days, Stefan learned to point at a cow when I asked him to. But then, I found a picture of a black cow, and he couldn’t understand the connection.

Luckily, I had great support from his very enthusiastic SLT. Sarah encouraged me to incorporate as much as possible of Stefan’s language and communication learning in outdoor play rather than making it yet another living-room-arranged task. We moved our speech and language learning from our living room outside, and it was a great decision. That possibly made his learning more chaotic, but it was also more spontaneous and did bring the effect we wanted, eventually.

Since then, we’ve made an effort to intentionally connect his learning to the outdoors. For example, when he was learning about waterfalls in school, we would go to see a real-life waterfall. When they learned map reading, we would go exploring at a local park with a map over the weekend.

The school supported Stefan by keeping us up to date with their classroom topics, and we supported him by turning his classroom learning into an outdoor experience. Now Stefan is eleven years old, and while we don’t need to follow his school learning, we still believe that learning by doing and experiencing is the most meaningful to an autistic child. And we’ve personally seen it pay off. 

Expanding food choices outside

Like many autistic people, sensory processing differences narrow down Stefan’s food choices. However, we noticed that Stefan would be more likely to try new foods when we are out and about on trips or outdoor adventures. It’s an interesting concept we would never have realized unless we were outside and adventuring. 

While this might not work for everyone, it works for him. He is more open to new options when he is tired and hungry after a hike. He accepts the fact that when we go camping, our food choices are limited, and we might not be able to cook his favourite food. And outdoors, he’s much more curious and willing to taste whatever we eat. 

Fitness and health

Although Stefan might not be as physically fit as his neurotypical peers, we believe that he is in good shape and health. Our active routine of everyday walks and hikes and day trips on weekends have all made him a resilient walker. We are out in any season and any weather.

As a family, we also enjoy wild water swimming. I have to admit that Stefan only dips his feet in cold water in winter, but still does take part in our fun.  And even in summer, lakes in northern England are far from being warm.

He also loves his weekly, train-spotting, out-of-town bike rides. He makes most of his trampoline and spends hours in our garden when the days are longer. His immune system is very healthy, and I think a lot of that is from all the time we spend outside.

Building connection and trust outdoors

Although I said earlier that Stefan isn’t a boy locked in a glass dome, I haven’t always believed that. When he was little, we felt that he was so distant from us, emotionally. Being in nature made Stefan more relaxed and happy. It also allowed us more interaction, and we found him more open to our support and guidance.

Over the years, our outdoor adventures have shown us that Stefan wants to share his experience with us. Now, he often makes remarks about what he feels, sees, hears, or smells.

Another thing we let him do is help us choose our walks or trip destinations. Following and being responsive to Stefan’s choices makes him more open to new experiences. And, all these experiences in the natural world are shared moments of joy that allow so much more connection and closeness with him than I could ever have imagined.

Lessons learned from lockdown

When schools shut down during the lockdowns, like many families, we switched to learning from home. Our homeschool experience was very successful. I had great guidance from Stefan’s school, and he had my (his private teacher at the time) full attention nearly all of the time (sharing only with his brother). His academic education went great. We also walked as much as was allowed and made the most of our garden. Stefan’s life was very structured and predictable.

However, when we were allowed to explore again, Stefan’s perfectly structured world was ruined. He refused to get into the car and refused to go anywhere. He wanted his 100% predictable routine, his safety net, back. We had to start from scratch. It was very hard on all of us. 

Inspiration came from an unlike place. I will be forever grateful to the parent of little Isaac, whose YouTube videos Stefan loved watching. The videos were about lifts in supermarkets, and a promise to visit the lifts was our best bribe to get Stefan out of the house again. Somehow, it worked.

As the world was slowly opening up and expanding again, we cautiously went exploring. We quickly discovered that Stefan’s body forgot how to walk on unknown, uneven ground, how to run up and down hill,s and how to climb. It was a petrifying discovery. Luckily, with more outdoor adventures, he quickly adapted and soon was back on track. But, we’ve learned our lesson and now know that he needs to experience different terrains and environments frequently to keep his skills alive.

Outdoor recommendations for autistic families

Every autistic child is unique. Each of them has its own set of differences and strengths. I understand that not every family might be able to use the outdoors to the extent we do. However, if you would like to try, below are some activities you and your child might enjoy.

Garden/backyard activities

• Bubbles
• Sidewalk chalk drawing, chalk paint or a water painting
• Trampoline jumping
• Sandpit play
• Walking barefoot around the garden
• Playing hide and seek
• Messy play with mud (add grass or flowers for a wow effect)
• Kicking and throwing a ball
• Scavenger hunt (adapted to child’s levels of understanding)
• Jumping in puddles
• Gardening
• Pulling/climbing a rope
• Pushing a wheelbarrow
• Building a musical wall 
• Mud kitchen
• Hammock

Exploring the wider world

• Neighborhood walks – Little walks around your area should provide the safety of a known place and a bit of exercise. It can be easily adapted, changed, and expanded.
• Woodland walks – Walks in the nearby woodland or forest are also great sensory experiences. A lot happens in the woods with changing seasons.
• Visiting playgrounds – If your child finds them too noisy, our hack is to visit them early morning or late afternoon.
• Stream paddling – Good fun in the water, great physical activity, and good for balancing.
• Beach – Spending time at the beach is an amazing sensory experience: sifting sand through their fingers, walking barefoot, paddling in a sea, and being allowed carefree play would make many children happy.
• Nighttime walk – We love little trips around the neighborhood or to our local woods at night. Torches off, senses on. It’s a really fun way to explore the same place in a new way. 
• Rock climbing – We found a beach where nobody goes with lots of rocks to climb and play on. It’s fun, good for balance, and improves body movement and strength.
• Camping – Our best holidays are camping holidays! If you are unsure how it will go, try camping in your back garden first.
• Horse riding – This can be a bit pricey, but there is a long list of benefits.
• Canoeing/kayaking – A great water activity that’s very physical and involved all the senses. 
• Raft building – We are currently collecting milk bottles to build our own raft this summer.
• Cycling – It took us a long time to convince Stefan to pedal. First, he had a tricycle. After a few years on trike, Stefan learned how to use a bicycle, and it brings him a lot of joy.
• Geocaching – Real-life treasure hunting with your phone! This is an absolute hit with our family. 
• Rolling down dunes/hills – Great physiotherapy and lots of fun! 
• I-Spy books – These are themed and motivate kids to finding new things and pay more attention to their surroundings.
• Hiking – Great outdoor physical activity with tons of variety and options. 
• Farm visits – Visiting a working farm is a great way to experience a new place. Our favourite is an ice cream farm.
• Forest bathing – A visit to a forest can do wonders. Some places have sculpture trails or children trails.
• Kite flying – Cheap and cheerful entertainment for hours.
• Bonfire – Gathering wood and having an open fire (if allowed in your area).
• Winter play – Sledding and having a snowball fight.
• Building a snowman – And, of course, drinking hot chocolate afterward.
• Crabbing –  It’s amazing how much fun you can have with a piece of bacon and a crabbing net.
• Foraging – Finding berries is what my children love: blackberries, raspberries, and wild strawberries are easy to find and delicious.
• Orienteering – With a help of an adult, children can navigate a map and find checkpoints.
• Fishing – A great way to keep kids outside and entertained for hours. 

Useful literature and websites

• I-Spy books
• What a Child Should do Before They are 11 and ¾
• 101 Things for Kids to do Outside by Dawn Isaac
• The Big Book of 100 Outdoor Activities by Laura Minter & Tia Williams
• Playing, Laughing, and Learning on the Autism Spectrum: A Practical Resource of Play Ideas for Parents and Carers by Julia Moor
• Calvert Trust, just to give you an idea that there are outdoor centres created specifically for people with additional needs
• You Can Have an Outdoor Adventure by Alex Gregory
• British Orienteering

Your local public library will also have a shelf with factual books for children, including literature that encourages nature and outdoor play. A trip to a local library could be an adventure in itself.

Taking autistic children outdoors

The natural world has plenty to offer to our autistic children. We hope that this article would inspire you to spend more time outdoors and find what makes your child happiest.

Are you and your autistic child exploring and having fun in nature?

About the author

Anna is a mum of two energetic boys and the wife of Cezary. Before they started a family, they enjoyed backpacking and hitchhiking. Once the kids arrived, they adjusted their lifestyle and settled down in the beautiful Lake District, in the northwest of England. It’s often foggy and rainy where they live, but, they are outdoors in any weather. Anna is an ultramarathon runner, and Cezary loves triathlons, so, the children grow up being involved in hiking, trail running, cycling, all-year-round wild water swimming, and camping. Stefan is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Antek is a neurotypical 9-year-old. Anna believes in positive psychology, in creating good moments and capturing memories. She believes that being outdoors brings them together as a family and advocates for children with additional needs to be encouraged to explore and play outside. She trusts nature is a natural playground, enriches and stimulates the senses, and this is where she sees her children happiest.

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